Sometimes they just don't know where to get off. Picture this i come home this other day and she's in my house cooking and ironing and then tells me his Son (my husband) is skinny now 'cos i don't feed him very well..... Hello....the poor guy is 33 years. She just won't stop, sometimes i feel like kicking her a$$ back to where she comes from.. She's visiting every other week. Help!
2006-07-10 03:05:29 · 9 answers · asked by Missylicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Every living human kind with married life has the same problems with their mother-in-law so you are not alone on planet earth.
It's just miscommunication and communication failures.
Find out what makes her tick and overcome that ticking fuse.
Can it be self lack of knowledge or old-age?
Learn and try to understand what is their needs.
2006-07-10 03:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay speaking form the mans side- My mother drives my Wife crazy. I hate it for my wife cause she is always the one to have to talk to her and "deal" with her. I try to protect my wife as much as possible but my mother is so manipulative and I grew up with it thast i miss it most of the time until my poor wife has a break down or I have to keep her from commiting murder. My mother in law is depressed and lazy and does nto meddle very much, my step mother in law is awesome she comes over and does laundry and dishes and clns the house, so much less for my wife to do it is a huge help. I look forward to her visits-My wife is so much more relaxed when she does nto have a million and one chorse to juggle.
2006-07-10 10:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by trialtoid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way. When a girl has a boy, the mom is always going to be attached more than a girl. I live it everyday. I dont mind it now b/c I have a son and I see how I am with him. Dont worry about it cause when shes gone you get it all if you act right!!!!! Dont be to stressed, she just cant get over the fact he has another woman that is taking care of him now and she feels like she is not needed anymore. Trust me I take advantage now, She babysits when I need her to, cooks for us when I dont feel like it, gives up money when we need it. See it has its benifits. Trust me, it took me 2 years to get over it and say well she is going to be here reguardless if I am or not so make the best of it.
2006-07-10 10:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean both my mother and my mother in law are in our business... the other day my mother was at my house having a yard sale and I left for 2 hours I had a few things to do when I came home she had cleaned the house... and found a sex toy magizine in my bedroom and had to question me about our sexual lifestyle!!!! i was freaking out. as for my mother in law she calls and 95% of the time I answer the phone she will ask my opinion or advice or plan a date for something and just when it's sounds like the suject is settled she say ask tim( my husband) like she doesn't think my advice opinion ...whatever is vailid!!! it drives me nuts.... i try to avoid them both as much as possible but some times I just have to come out and tel my mother what I think ...i leave the confrontations with my mother in law up to my husband...he handles them as needed...
2006-07-10 10:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by JeNe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation. If your husband won't back you up and keep her at arms length, you may have to resort to divorce. Unfortunately I did. If he doesn't handle the situation with her now, he never will. Your choices are:
1. Live with it, get used to it, accept it.
2. Divorce out of the situation
2006-07-10 10:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Firefighter EMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nyyankeesg1rl is right. You do need to set boundries. You also need to talk with your 33 yr old husband and tell him it's time your immediate family(you, him and any children in the household) comes first and his mother needs to go take care of his dad or who ever is in her household.
Good luck sweety, although my mother-in-law has her flaws, like everybody else, I consider myself lucky.
2006-07-10 10:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by LoraNutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do,she never gives up,she is always in her sons affairs even when he is happy nothing is ever good for her all we have to do is, just don't pay attentions to her
2006-07-10 10:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by toya9075 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make it clear to her that if she's in your house she needs to respect you. if she's not ok with that let her stay home and not visit
2006-07-10 10:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by nyyankeesg1rl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet I do. Not easy but if you can't leave your hubby then there's nothing much you can do. Accept her as she is.
2006-07-10 11:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by sauerkraut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋