i always have the anger inside of me when it comes to the arguments or encountering with people who bothers me with their behaviours.....
i feel like they chock me ( breathless) so i burn them with my negative attiude toward things in life...considering my opinion too. im sick from my self being this way....
2006-07-10 02:57:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
The truth is, your are not really an angry person. You are not born one you had to learn to be one.
Negativity is not real, it is just the way you think about youself, others and the world. Anger is definitely one of the byproducts of negative thinking which can be resolved the same way all byproducts of negative thinking can.
You have to change your thinking. Start with realizing that not everyone is out to get you or have bad intentions. For example, a lot of people get infuriated when someone cuts them off while driving or bumps into them. The negative thinker will take the bump or cut off personaly and attribute the other persons behavior to intentionally trying to bump or cut off, when in reality most people are unaware of what they did. And when they are aware of what they did, they didn't do it intentionally.
The positive person will interpret the same situation as not being done intentionally. Either way, nobody really knows what the other persons intention really are because we can't read minds, we only interpret according to our habits and beliefs, not by the truth.
Since we don't know for sure what people are thinking it is best to just interpret the situation positively. When you interpret negatively you get stung twice...once by the person and twice by the negative experience you feel...when interpreted positively you don't get stung at all.
A good book out there is called "feeling good" by David Burns.
2006-07-16 11:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bogey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, there many ways to start becoming a happier person. In fact, being happier is not only better for you but it is important for the people around you. When we are negative and depressed, people in our lives suffer too. So, here are a few suggestions: First, read a book called "Happiness is a Serious Problem" by Dennis Prager. If you are a reader and can find it, also read "How Can I enjoy this Moment?" by Samuel M. Silver (published in 1967..but still extremely relevant in 2006). Additionally, get to know your strengths (take the VIA Strengths Survey at www.authentichappiness.org to learn your top 5 strengths). (By the way, I do not work for any of these authors or the website). Learn your strengths, ask your friends and loved ones how they see your strengths in you.
Also, become a better, more virtuous person. Serve a cause or purpose that is larger than yourself (could be faith but other things work, too). Do things--using your strengths and talents--that help and meet the needs of others both in your free time and in your career/job. Also, excersise, eat well (and find a group who can help you do there if needed) and nurture friendships and other relationships. Start here for becoming more positive and let me know how it goes: international_debate@yahoo.com
2006-07-10 10:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have shown here a very good attitude about your problem. It is a very, very good start that you show insight and that you show readiness to change, and that is quite positive.
There is no easy solution, but I think you would do very well in an Anger Management course or some other counselling session. You will need to explore what the source of your anger is, and why you have a "negative attitude toward things in life." Then it will be easier to control your responses.
2006-07-10 10:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by sonyack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi cecili,i saw your question and i thought i might add something you wish to think about.You asked about how to turn around negative ways to positive ways.Well firstly you have to start from scratch and look to see what your truly angry at? what is it your truly angry at? Make a list of these things and be as honest as you possibly can, the more honest about what makes you angry the better.now once you know the true things your angry at, The 2nd stage would be to accept them, So Acceptance off these things in your life comes next,and after that would be a honest look at the things in your life that you are holding on to and are now willing to let go of, Then after this comes FORGIVENESS, FORGIVENESS is one of the main keys in the end for dissolving up all anger and negativity, if you want to know more about this and how to go about it, then i can help further as i experienced all this in the past.and much more
2006-07-10 10:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by namaste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you realize that you have a problem with this which is always the first step to changing. I have to remember that I have personal attributes that bother people too, so when someone is really bugging me I take a deep breath and tell myself to remember that I bother people at times myself.
2006-07-10 11:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by Only hell mama ever raised 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to read the Book of John. I know it sounds stupid, and you are thinking, "Yeah right." But after everything else fails, after all the advice you get doesn't work, when you still are left with the anger, turn to God. ONLY he can cure you. After you read John you will understand.
2006-07-10 10:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by 1,1,2,3,3,4, 5,5,6,6,6, 8,8,8,10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a teacher. No kidding. Find someone you admire for being like that an emulate him or her. It takes some time but it works.
2006-07-10 10:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with your anger.
Anger comes from fear.
What are you so afraid of?
Figure this out, deal with it, and everything will fall into place.
2006-07-10 10:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um..... stop if you know ur doing it and u even know why wtf thtas a dumb ques!!!!
2006-07-10 10:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by naomi p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋