so could any one tell me what shall i do to stop it.
2006-07-10 02:55:12 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well young man, I would say it is time to stand up and a man; if you want to play the games of a grown-up, then you have to be prepared to take on the consequences as well.
Don't be one of those tail-tucking teens that when the going gets tough you run....this only would prove that you were in it for the "fun" and not out of love for your girl. Be a "REAL" man and stand up and be counted.....
You need to be with your girl and support her in this....talk to your parents and talk to her parents; between you, there is a solution to this all to prevalent happening....above all BE A MAN about this and take your responsibilities......you will be a better person for doing this and you can keep your self-respect and will be able to look yourself in the mirror......
2006-07-10 03:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well first what do you mean you were having sex for fun and it went wrong. If your having sex for fun and your not protecting yourself then it can't be that much fun now that you're in this situation huh? Okay enough with that so...she's going to be a mom and your going to be a dad...don't forget that part. What can you do to stop it?Well you don't have much choice in the matter. Although you had a lot of choice in putting the thing in there. At this point it will be up to your g.f to decide what steps she wants to take next. She can keep the baby, abort or adopt. But like I said those are her choices. She needs to go to the drs and be scene first and then go from there. I'm sure the dr can hook her up with some great ppl to talk to about her future choices if she's not sure what she wants to do.
2006-07-10 10:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tara J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL - this is your choice, and although everyone is entitled to their opinion, it seems that most of the people who have responded to your question are being way too harsh, not understanding and very judgemental. IGNORE THEM - you need to just review all your options and choose what is right for you and your girlfriend. THIS IS YOUR LIFE - and you have EVERY right to do what you feel is best for you at this stage in your lives.
And hey - these things happen. You first priority is to talk to your girlfriend and find out how she is feeling about it. You have basically three options:
1. start a family
2. adoption
3. abortion
I myself am adopted and it was the best thing that my biological mother could have ever done for me. I have had an awesome life and I thank God that she was strong enough to make that choice for me.
However, I have also had an abortion and for me it was the only choice. My boyfriend and I were too young and we both had too much that we still wanted to do with our lives before having a family.
Then again, my best friend just had a baby with her boyfriend - they got pregnant by mistake too - they had only been together for 6 months - and they are now planning on getting married and having a second child.
So it really depends on what stage in your life you are at and how you and your girlfriend feel about the whole situation. And do your best to be understanding of her position and needs - this may be scary for you, but this is terrifying for her - she's the one who is actually pregnant.
I think that you should definitely go see a counselor - Planned Parenthood is a world-wide organization that can talk you through all your options, help you deal with this issue and give you advice as to how to handle it when telling your folks and such. There were awesome when I needed them - thank God we have such a great service - that's available for FREE (or very close to it!) and is totally confidential. Look in your yellow pages for a clinic near you.
Good luck and I hope that everything works out for the best for both of you.
2006-07-10 10:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by The Lizard Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, no quick answer for this one. But I will tell you that not only is she going to be a mom you are going to be a dad! Amazing how that works. What to do about it will depend on both of you but the decision will be ultimately up to her since it is her body. I do hope that she will take your feelings into consideration as well since you have a stake in this too. Just do not be so quick to have an abortion, it will be something she will regret for the rest of her life. Adoption is a better option if the two of you are not capable of caring for the child. Remember...it is a child. Also, for future reference, condoms or abstinence work great to prevent unwanted pregnancies. I am not a die hard prolifer, I believe everyone should be free to make their own choice, just know from my own past mistakes. The decision I made and have to live with will haunt me for the rest of my life.
2006-07-10 10:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like my mama always said, you gotta make the bed, once your done sleeping in it. Oh and she also said, a hard head makes a soft ***!!! Anyway...my advice is depending on how old u are is to talk to ur parents and see what they have to say, get a job, open up a savings acct and start saving b/c u will need it, let the chick know that u are cool, and u got her back.. don't abandon her... she did'nt get pregnant alone. Next time abstain or wrap it up.!!! It's not that bad!!! It couldve been AIDS or something.
2006-07-10 10:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Muchacha Mala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop it. YOU are the one who decided 2 have sex "for fun". YOU are the one who has to take responsibility for your actions. YOU are the one who has to grow up to become a father.
YOU made the mistake- live with it. And if u dump ure girl- that's just wrong. Don't leave your girl bcuz you decided 2 hav unprotected sex with her! You gotta stay with her and support her. Good luck being a dad and from now on MAKE RESPONSIBLE DECISIONS!!
2006-07-10 10:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by dogluva9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is blak, you wll pay with your entire life. If she happens to be white, a good lawyer may just be able to help. Go on the (Mr Connie Dung) Mauray Show amd agree to give her the money you get for appearing. She can sign a contract releasing you from all obligations for that payment.
2006-07-10 10:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fun just turned into a life, and you can't stop it! sorry, bud, but it's time for you to be Dad wether you like it or not! You have a higher responsibility now for at least the next 18 years! Hey, you play you pay! what else is there to say?
2006-07-10 09:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far along is she? Does she want the baby? The only thing you can do to stop a pregnancy is abortion. Or she can have the baby and give it up for adaoption there are alot of people that want a baby but cant conceive one
2006-07-10 09:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to your parents and she needs to talk to her's because she need to see an ob. It may not be the thing you want to do. But your parents will be thankful in the long run. As a mom I would be more hurt if my kids hid from me something like this. There are also other options if neither one wants to parent there is adoption and other options Good luck
2006-07-10 10:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer.frye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋