2006-07-10 02:52:27 · 6 answers · asked by Expat Froggy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I live in a foreign country since I married an European man 5 years ago. Our daugther is born out of a miracle since we have virtually no sexual relationships.
I tried everything I know but he simply ignores me. Talking about divorce ends with his sentence " fine, then go"
I learned the difficult language from the country I live but not with enough fluency as to post myself for a job, and my universitary profession is not recognized here, reason why I am completely isolated and dependant.
I lost the way out, after this very painful time together, completely ignored as a woman, without an income or anybody who can give me an advice, I do not know what to do.
About arsenic, honestly sometimes I wish I would be dead, but then I think about my 4 years old daughter and then I get convinced that I must be strong to end up this nightmare in a way that will not make her unhappy forever.
How can I recover the courage that I need to start over my life without loosing my daughter
2006-07-10 03:25:54 · update #1
well, start with getting a job, then save as much as you can each payday(dont tell him), and save your income tax that you get back at end of year then get a place of your own. and take daughter with you.
in ohio. when I didnt have a place to go I went to public housing and its also called metorpolitan housing authority, in the phone book in the front under housing. told them my boyfriend was hurting me and couldnt take it anymore had no place to go(their waiting list was too long to wait) so they let me talk to the person in charge( I cried reallly hard).
and in 2 months took my daughter(then 10yr old) and I and got a place with them helping me.
and go to the local welfare office and ask for help there. and also try catholic charities in your town. phone number in phone book in the front also. and there are shelters for women and children too. try them.
this will be rough at first but you will find inner strenghth in yourself. and giving yourself and your daughter courage and show her that it is ok to ask for help. once you start contacting these agencies and asking for help. dont be ashamed and keep your head high. it is not shameful to ask for help.
good luck.
and start RIGHT NOW AND CONTACT THESE AGENCIES TODAY, RIGHT THIS MINUTE, AS SOON AS YOU READ THIS.
YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER WILL BE OK. IN OHIO, YOU CANT LOSE YOUR CHILD TO YOUR EX ONLY IF YOU ARE ON DRUGS OR ABUSING THE KID. HE CANT TAKE HER AWAY FROM YOU, NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS, YOU CAN AND SHOULD TAKE HER WITH YOU TO THESE PLACES WITH YOU.
HE WILL HAVE TO TAKE YOU TO COURT AND PROVE THIS. AND MOST TIMES IF IT ISNT HARMFUL FOR THE CHILD, THEY GO TO THE MOTHER. AND IF HIS ENVIRONMENT IS BAD FOR HER THEN TELL THAT TO THE JUDGE WHEN HE TAKES YOU TO COURT. I TOLD THE JUDGE WHEN I WENT TO COURT AND HAD PEOPLE THAT KNEW HIM THAT IT WAS BAD FOR HER. AND GOT A RESTRAINING ORDER TOO.
GOOD LUCK, AND DO THIS NOW!!! PLEASE CALL THEM NOW!!!!
IM IN OHIO.
2006-07-10 03:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, reach down inside yourself and pull out that strength that every woman has to take care of business. He may have stomped it down, but it is still in there. Make your daughter your A #1 priority and do what is best for her first and foremost. She is going to follow your lead, and if you don't want her to grow up thinking the relationship you are in is acceptable, you must do something. Now, find someone in the legal field in the country you are in and get some help. The lawyer can put you in touch with local agencies that may help you with shelter and getting a job. The hardest step is th first one, but it can all get better if you take it. When you leave him, take anything you hold dear to your heart, as you may never see it again. It is a small price to pay for getting your life back, however, and true happiness is waiting for you to go get it. :+)
2006-07-10 10:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by adeliza_of_bristol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arsenic? If you don't have the stomach for that how about seeing a lawyer.
2006-07-10 09:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he proves you unfit, it is highly unlikely that you will lose your daughter. You need to contact a lawyer.
2006-07-10 10:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is far too little information. What state you are in and more facts are necessary for a decent answer.
2006-07-10 09:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact a lawyer
2006-07-10 10:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋