does it every time, promises to do/finish work later: gets up late then crys for cash to go out , do i give in?
2006-07-10 02:50:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
actually i think the tantrum she pulls is so i will pay her to go away
also she plays horridly loud music to INSPIRE her while cleaning that really annoys me
2006-07-10 06:03:44 · update #1
No. Put your foot down. It's a simple request for a job done properly for dosh. Tell him/her they can't get one without the other. And no lee way on this one! If you agree to let them do it later, it will never get done!
2006-07-10 02:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Disgruntled Biscuit 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a 12 year old and we have a chart up with the jobs she has to do and how much she gets paid for each one. We tick them off daily / weekly and count up the money. When she asks for money, we check the chart and if she has not earned the money she wants she doesn't get it (e.g. £20 for a new top and had only earned £15 so only gave her £15). She did whinge and moan but she knows the rules and me and my hubbie refused to get in argument with her about it. We just kept reiterating the rules and if she wante to earn the other £5 then she needed to do more hosuework. She did, just to prove it more than anything, although she didnt do it well and was made to do it again (another rule, she has to do the work properly or it doesn't count).
2006-07-11 22:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by willowbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter was 15, we gave her pocket money every week and told her that when it was gone it was gone! I didn't expect her to feed and clothe herself, or buy personal toiletries, I still included them in my shopping as she was still at school. It sorta worked, but there was always the exceptional demand when something unexpected came up, and whilst I argued, I knew that it wasn't really unreasonable. She is now 19, and working part time in a pub, has her own bedsit, pays her own rent, and again, still comes when she is really stuck, which I think is natural, but she knows that money doesn't grow on trees, and if she wants something, she has to work for it. If you compromise with your daughter it will pay off in the long run. If you give in too easily, it may take longer to learn. I certainly would not be held to ransom ever, and mine tried that. Nor would I part with money if she didn't keep to her end of the bargain. No Way.
2006-07-10 09:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO; time to give the little princess a wakeup call.
How about making up some bills and keeping them in your purse. When she goes on about money, present her with a bill: 15 years of bed & board; her share of this weeks utility bill; a bill for your time for cooking and cleaning up after her ungrateful b*tt.
If I'd tried that when i was 15, i know the reaction my mom would have had - and it would not have been a hand out!!
JJ
2006-07-11 06:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by just_jen2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ten year old gets £5 a week pocket money, which he has to earn by cleaning his bedroom once a week and washing up twice a week. If he doesn't do the washing up he is deducted £1 each time and if he doesn't do his room, we take £3 off. So if he want's to be a lazy little toe-rag, he can, but he doesn't get rewarded. If he finishes all his chores, he can hop off down to the shop and spend his fiver any way he pleases!!! IT WORKS, BUT ONLY IF YOU STICK TO YOUR GUNS!
2006-07-12 23:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by ruthkerrison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, kids nowadays have no value for anything b/c they rarely had to do anything to get it, meanwhile us parents are busting our butts to get stuff. DON'T GIVE IN!!! BE STRONG!! I know it's hard sometimes, but you'll feel better about it when your kid's in his 20's and is a little more independent, instead of moonching of you and living in your basement. Or do this, make a list of things that need to be done and put a price on them, for instance car needs washing - $5.00. Clean out Garage $20.00 and so on.
Good luck!!
2006-07-10 02:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Muchacha Mala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not u don't give in, if she wants money from u she should earn it, that's how she learns about life, when she gets older she not going to get money from a job she never goes to right!! don't give in to her no matter how much crap she gives u. i know it will cause a few fights but tell her that she needs to learn if she doesn't work for the money she ain't gunna receive the money that's the way life goes.
2006-07-10 02:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in. S/he will soon enter the real world of work where no amount of crying is going to secure pay!
2006-07-10 02:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by daniel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you dont give in because you are not teching any responsibilty like that make your 15 yr old finish the job before the get money
2006-07-10 02:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by sareyna85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they have to learn that money has to be earned you give in now and five years down the line he will be sponging from the brew and wont think anything of it. stand firm its better for the long run and he will respect you more for it. good luck
2006-07-10 04:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to get a job to work for their cash!
2006-07-10 03:54:04 · answer #11 · answered by Look towards the future! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋