Why is it when men get old. The young people treat them as dirty old men?

Question

Don't the young generation know that some day they will be old. Like they are going to stay young forever.

Answer 1

hey i take exception to miss reds comments.. we are NOT loking for 12 year olds. geez how horrible.. we wait till they are 13..

Answer 2

Because some older men choose to act like perverts as opposed to the wise, revered elders of our community tat they want to be regarded as. Older men make it almost intolerable for young woman these days. If one more guy over 50 goes into detail about what he'd do to me if he were twenty yrs. younger, I'm really going to vomit!!!. Old men have been hitting on me since I turned 14 and began to develop. At this point in my life, 24, I honestly don't know when an older man is being genuine, or setting up for the kill, so I look at all older men who show me too much attention as a potential threat. It's not right, but a handful of people can really screw it up for the entire group.

Answer 3

To some extent the young have always felt superior to the old. For one thing, youth is still more driven by emotion than by intellect, meaning that young people are somewhat more controlled by the subconscious--and according to Freud the subconscious cannot comprehend mortality--instead of by their conscious reason. They really don't--can't--fully comprehend that old age is inevitable.

But more critical to your concerns I think, is the fact that American society is suffering from the combined effect of demographic isolation--people are not compelled to interact with other people outside their own age group-and the continuous bombardment of visual imagery suggesting that people "should" be young, well-built, well-off, and so on. In past generations, American society was constructed in a way that necessitated regular interactions between people of varying ages, tastes and intellectual capabilities. Extended families lived in the same towns, churches had not yet broken up Sunday Services into "adult" and "youth" factions, children knew their grandparents, etc. As late as the early '70s most Americans still lived in small, rural communities and the old, the young, the brilliant, and the mentally defiecient all had to learn to share the same space. I read recently that high-school aged kids are the single most age-isolated group of people in the US. Their contact with people their parents' age is minimal at best and they have almost no significant contact with the very old.

Now, let's add visual stimulus to society's age divisions, and we have a pretty complete picture of youth's bigotry against aging sexuality. To young people, the notion of old people having sex is fodder for humor, but this is largely because the imagery of sexual activity or desire past the age of 40 or so is presented for laughs, if it's presented at all. The kids are socialized, in other words, to be disgusted by desire outside of youth,and unless they come from loving families in which the parents and grandparents still demonstrate their affection for one another, all that they will know about the life-long endurance of libido will come from ad agencies and sit-com producers.

I'm finding that the easiest way of handling the insecurities of old age is to stop buying into the idea--which also comes mostly from marketing firms and media people--that the opinions of young people somehow matter more than the opinions of my peer group and my elders. If you're a part of the so-called "Baby Boom" generation, you have been socialized to be almost embarrassed by growing old, as if somehow you could have avoided aging if you had been just a little hipper or cooler. The opinions of the young matter more to you than they should because somewhere along the line you bought into the idea of youth as the ulimately desirable state of being--youth as Holy Grail, or something like that.

Embrace your old age, in other words, and stop worrying about the fact that young women no longer find you sexually desirable. There are probably plenty of women your own age who, given a chance, would find you interesting and attractive. (And if this idea turns you off or grosses you out, then you're not a dirty old man; you're a hypocrite.)

Good luck.

Answer 4

Maybe it's because (some) older men act like "dirty old men". I have an Uncle that is almost 86 & all he does is swear with filthy language, complain, & talk about sex.
It seems like the older they get they have to prove their virility by talking/acting like that.

Answer 5

They look at the oldies (myself included) physically and not the inner being that still is 25 years old (me) LOL,

on the other hand there are a lot of weirdo pervs and stalkers trolling chat rooms and message board communites of ALL ages.

Answer 6

Some older men do act perverted, wheezing on after younger ladies.

Answer 7

90 % of old men on the internet are looking for sex with 12 year old girls. You'll have to forgive us for making the assumption...

Answer 8

Nope

Answer 9

well the answer is that the old men did the same in his youth

Answer 10

Don't you wish that they would see you as a sexy senior citizen?