if you are seeing someone and they do things to you when you are asleep? not just sex but other sexual things too, i would just like some other points of view on it thanks.....
2006-07-10 02:17:09 · 44 answers · asked by sinnedfairy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry i know i'm probably sounding dumb by asking this it's just when i asked one person they just said "so what" so i wondered if it was just them thinking this way
2006-07-10 02:20:37 · update #1
and i ditched him a while ago, and yes i woke up!!
2006-07-10 02:22:36 · update #2
Thats sexual assault. ANYTHING where you did not say yes first is wrong and you need to take care of that matter ASAP. It will only cause you trauma if you don't recognize it for what it is. No one should touch your body as if it were their own, without your consent.
2006-07-10 02:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by crystal m 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Rape is sex without consent, or when consent is not possible (ie: when asleep, intoxicated, etc.). So technically, if someone has sex with you while you are asleep, it's rape. If someone sexually touches you while you are asleep, it's assault.
However, what confuses things more is that if someone tries to have sex with you while you are asleep, you wouldn't stay asleep will you? So if and when you awaken from sleep to find someone doing sexual acts on you and you do nothing, not object, it can then be construed that there is consent and therefore nothing wrong is done. If you say no and make an obvious objection, and that person continues, there is not question that a crime is being committed.
The difficulty is then proving it in court. It's in the end your word against his. And how did you get into the position of being asleep while he is present. What are the circumstances? Things can get very difficult to prove.
A recent case in court was with a woman who was so drunk that she argued that she was not in any state to give consent to sex. It was argued that consent was given and that it was accepted. The woman lost her case and no conviction was made. So again, the crux is with proving the case.
2006-07-10 02:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by k² 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just weird. It is rape! Have you told him not to do this? Either way its rape but how do you know he is doing it if you are asleep. Does he tell you about it. Did you ask him why he gets off on it?
I do have a friend whos husband does this in his sleep. Forever she didnt believe him when he told her he didnt know he was doing it. To make a long story short he is now a registered sex offender because he was taking a nap with his daughter and did this. Who will ever know the truth but my point is no-one should be touched unless they consent to it. Get away!
2006-07-10 02:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Rootay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a stange one open to a lot of confusion...
In most cases no as you are doing it all the time and its not violently forced.
If I was in a relationship , the girl would be welcome to touch or kiss me whenever...
Thats the problem... A communication error first... He may not get you dont want to do this...
If he forces it thats different.
Ie if you are in a relationship and sleeping together and only had sex an hour ago.
It could be considered confusion over implied consent as opposed to actual rape.
Ie if you are pawing, kissing a, having sex all the time... then it could be assumed its a nice way to wake up.
Ie if a girl I was with woke me up like that (and didn't give me a fright) I would be emmn come here and half asleep make love to them back of ids totally dosy let them get on with it and have a nicce dream... as would want them happy as we would cuddle all the time and see it in the same way as though she snuggled up to me at night... no more then that... So would see it the same.
No intention to hurt at all. In fact it would be very confusing if the girl got upset. it would be like we just did doggy style, with fluffy handcuffs, made a dent in the wall and now you saying I attacked you as wanted a advanced cuddle?
Then its normal for couples (either one) to check out the other one whilst asleep and admire the view, have a feel and iniate things ...
If I was asleep it would be great to wake up to girlfriend doing things to me and as affectional she would be welcom.... Unless I just wanted some sleep and got annoyed and 'Let me sleep I have to get up in the morning!!!!!'
Not word annoyed nothing more then have a cuddle to now upset girl that you love her and love he touching you but need sleep to thats all.
Its also normal if someone likes the other if assleep to get a sneaky peek.
But whats not on is if you are not in any form of relationship and someone starts having sex with you or molesting you if you are asleep, drunk or otherwise incapaciated when their is no implied permission,
Or someone drugs you, or uses force then thats rape.
its a case of would you want someone to do that to you?
Be affection yes... force no.
2006-07-10 06:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-07-10 08:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Amazon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sinnedfairy, this is not an unusual dilemma, and it happens often among my still-married friends. Some women dislike it , as do some men. If you're living with someone, it is morally rape, not illegal. For some women getting over the nightmare of unwanted sex is difficult but, time does heal all (sort of).
An attractive woman who was staying at my house, who was known to be promiscuous, wakened me, during sex. She was on top of me and when I woke, threw her off of me and the bed. Rape? yes. Disease scare? yes. Nightmare? definitely.
2006-07-10 03:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Richard B-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is a serious matter. By definition it is the crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse. Although you are apparently not being forced, these acts appear to be done without your express consent.
How does that make you feel? Do you feel used? Do you feel violated? And just why is he/she using you while you sleep? Is it perhaps to awaken you for sex? Talk to this person, if you don't like what is happening.
2006-07-10 02:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time that you are not conscious to accept explicitly your wish to have sex, it may be consider as a rape.
If you realize that something happens that you dislike, or feel hurted, then get assessment from the authorities, since is abuse.
Be careful
2006-07-10 02:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Expat Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose so, it all depends on a few things - if it doesn't bother you then no it isn't, cause i know couple who do it to each other all the time - (it turns them on ???), but if you feel it's an invasion of you then yes! It is rape - and report it as so.
Good Luck Bird
D*
2006-07-10 02:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you are dating someone and they do things to you with out your ok ar consent i beleive it is still considered rape. Take a long look at this guy to. If hes doing this dating if you get really serious other controlling signs may appear.
2006-07-10 02:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋