Relationship Questions only for the Mature Please...?

Question

Why when a person has no place to go,or sick, or have kids the other partner abuses them and tell them to get out!

why is it some people when they do wrong and they are confronted turn it around on the other person

why does a person say your not what i want physically i want someone else but never makes them leave?

why does an abusive man say what how he can rescue other women but cannot resuce his own relationship? he treats other women better than his own

is it a way to have control when a man/woman tell a person to leave when they know they have no where else to go and they talk down to them and abuse them everyday.

Answer 1

because men ar edogs.

Answer 2

To your first question. Control. This person does it because he want to keep the other frightened and under his control knowing also that they DO NOT have any place to go, so they MUST come back and the abuser KNOWS this. That is the point. He knows she will come because he knows there is NO ONE to rescue or HELP her so she WILL come back. And that alone makes him feel very powerful. But if the other DOES find some where to stay believe me, he would never tell her to leave again. Because he will know she DOES have somewhere to go. And that is what he does not want because he loses his power over the other. And that is what causes most of the abuse. Men like that are really cowards because the pick on the WEAK knowing that there will be no retaliation in return.

Your second question. Because they know you are right and they do not want you to get the better of them. It is also a matter of keeping control. But always remember THEY KNOW THAT THEY ARE WRONG. Never doubt that. They know, they just don't want to give you the satisfaction of knowing that.

Third question. Because they are having a hard time finding someone to like them the way they are. If you leave (the only thing that they can find) then they will have NOTHING for a LONG time. So they WON"T make you leave. Because they need you, and do not wish to be alone. (insecure)

Fourth question. Because with his relationship he has CONTROL he does not have to DO anything. Most man treats other women better than they their own. But in his case it could be that he knows he is NOT being a man in his relationship and need to rescue a woman to again FEEL like a man. A hard question to answer.

Answer 3

I f this question is for you sweetie the best advise I can give you is if this is happening to you is to get out and get out asap. Things will never get better. It sounds like he is very controlling and has you right under his thumb.He has some major controll issues.And beleive it or not what hes doing is mental and emotional abuse ans it will only escalate to being physical abuse.If he does something wrong and turns it around on you again it is a control problem and dosent want to admit to his mistakes its easier to blame you. He says he can resue other women but not work on his own relationship that says to me he wants to be the knight and shining armor to others and he really dosent care about your relationship or you. If there are kids involved think about what its doing to them to hear the arguing all the time or if they are young and stay in an enviroment like that they will grow up thinking its ok to treat there mate that way or be treated that way. If some one really loves you thats not the way they will treat you.Im sorry if this was to harsh but this struck home with me because this was the same thing my sister went through it started the same way till he started beating her on a daily basis. Do you have any family? I f not then i would go to the local state agency i think probaly DCF maybe able to help you may be eligible for housing low income and get like foodstamps and afdc.I hope everything works out for you

Answer 4

Always I believe there are two sides of a story.
What you have mentioned, it all happens to a partner who is always trying to please the other too much, a partner who is going to much greater lengths to please the other, human nature is a very peculiar on this sort of thing and doesn't like/condone it too much.

if a partner is similar to above, the second one takes advantage and can be abusive, satisfaction becomes more if there is a leverage of not having somewhere to go or knowing it is a lost cause.

To overcome the above, be always positive, think highly of yourself, have faith on the future on your success. Also when discussing with your partner, be open and explain thoroughly what you don't like of him and assimilate what is wrong about you and both of you try to compromise. If there is no compromise then there is no waty you can be together for long.

Human character of lying is part of the genes, you can't help it if someone is like that.

Ask you partner what he expects of you and try resonable to adapt and at the same time mention your expectation (reasonable and logically) of him, try to work out. Sometimes couple needs a nugde on the right direction to proceed.

It's a human nature, always human wants to portray the best character to the outside world, it happens all the time, it is not only other women, even kids, relatives, friends and the list goes on and on.

the is main thing NEVER GIVE UP, there is so much out there and you can make the marriage work if you put your effort on it, there is no marriage in this world without the ups and down, that it is impossible.

The thing is how do we manage the ripples, you can do it and don't loose hope on this, it depends on you to make it happen the way you want.

Answer 5

The simple answer is a question you have to ask yourself and that is, is it all worth it?
I don't know anyone who would stay around to hear them self being put down. There has to be somewhere else to go or someone to turn to whether it is a family member, friend or some type of women's help organisation. Is it possible for you to get in touch with someone because by the sounds of it your in a pretty bad place right now...try a local christian charity or something like that........wish I could help more, I feel for you.

Answer 6

Yes, it is a form of control and of abuse. There are places for you to go if you really want to leave. Contact your local Women's Resource Center. They can put you and any children you may have in a shelter and help you find a job and a place to live. They will even help you with your first months rent and security deposit. There is no reason to stay with this man IF you really want out.

Answer 7

That is Verbal Abuse, you need to have a long conversation with yourself about what you think you want and deserve in a Boyfriend/Spouse.

Love is NOT about hurting the soul and making you feel less then you know you are.

Save yourself, save your innerself, pack a bag walk out that door and don't turn back.

Answer 8

It is all about control, but a women needs to take control of her own life and not wait for Prince Charmming. Get help then get control over your life. I worked two jobs to take care of myself and really most people can if they want to chanmge. The problem is that most women are waiting to be helped by man but today women do not need a man. We want them but do not need them!

Answer 9

when people are down small minded people like to keep them there because it makes them feel better about themselves. they finally have found someone who, if only for a little while, is worse off than them and instead of trying to improve there own lives they would rather spend time reminding you how bad your's is. when you finally do get back on your feet they can delude themselves into believing they had something to do with it. as far as romancesgo they have to feed there ego by putting you down. you have to believe in yourself. it is not just men some women also are dogs

Answer 10

u always have places 2 go contact ur local womans shelters.get away now before its 2 late.abusers r really great at getting u 2 beleive they r the only ones who can be there 4 u its a lie like everything else they say n do.

Answer 11

Honey, a man cannot treat you that way unless YOU LET HIM DO IT, and you're acting like a door-mat...so blame yourself for your problems. You're not getting any respect from him; nothing but abuse. Put his butt out of your life for good! Find another man who will love and respect you. Who cares if he has no where to go? That's his problem. Get some cast-iron balls and stand up for yourself, Girl...and I mean NOW !!!