ive been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and shes never orgasmed, with me, other partners or even on her own..shes 19 and gets very close to c.u.m.i.ng but just cant continue as its too much for her..i go down on her and we are very good at communication durin sex but still not geting there...any advice or reassurance would be appretiated...cheers..oh yeah would any past *bad experiances* at a young age be the source of the problem??
2006-07-10 01:37:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
we are very close, dress up, have fun, use toys and everything...maybe shes just young and needs time to tune in to her body! thanks people
2006-07-10 01:49:46 · update #1
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2006-07-10 01:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by gangadharan nair 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad experiences could very well be the problem... sex, especially for women, is highly connected to the emotional state and mindset that the person is in..... if your girlfriend is associating these experiences (either conciously or subconciously) with past negative experiences then she may well struggle with fully connecting with the moment and thus struggle with her orgasm. Has your girlfriend ever saught counselling over these past experiences? Even aside from her trouble with climaxing she may want to consider counselling as these experiences can impact in many areas a person's life for a long time, sometimes without them even realizing. It's not easy though, and takes a lot of strength and support, and will need you to help her through if she decides to go down this path.
However, it may not necessarily be that these experiences are impacting on her orgasm. Some women do find reaching climax an overwhelming thing and cannot cope with it.... for a loooong time that was my own personal experience. It took a long time of building up a feeling of trust, comfort and security for me to relax enough with my boyfriend to let the moment take hold of me. What helped me through this was the knowledge that climaxing is not the be-all and end-all of sex. I enjoyed it soooo much even without coming, for me it was the experience of being that intimate with someone I loved that brought me the greatest pleasure. There are so many ways to enjoy sex and each other without climaxing, I spent a long time discovering them and exploring them with my boyfriend. Even now that I am able to climax (woohoo!) I still appreciate the other parts of the sexual experience just as much- sometimes more!
Sorry this was so long!
2006-07-10 01:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by pearly_wings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi it could be she is not mature enough to know her own body yet. Sometimes it takes women years to get to know themselves. If you stay patience and give her a lot of fore play it will happen when she's not thinking about it and is just in the moment. You need to relax and enjoy your time together and let her find out what she really likes. And orgasm is not the only reason you have sex you know; it is to share with another person you most intimate self and the joy of life that is why we have babies because we are sharing a wonderful part of our life.
2006-07-10 01:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by ginger47a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man... this is a major problem for most women... i'm suprised she tells you that she can't get to that point... you must both be close... well my advise it to spice it up a bit... the main problem in the bedroom department for most women and men not being able to climax can be that thier feeling of arousal has not happend before hand... i would suggest a little playfulness in the bedroom, mabee some toys or even a dress up during forplay... you'll soon have your woman howling... good luck buddy
2006-07-10 01:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a fact some girls are unable to orgasm during sex. I doubt an bad experience would be holding her back, if that was the case, i dont think she would be comfortable having sex at all.
2006-07-10 01:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time for a woman to reach her orgasm. You need to relax and take lots of time with her. She'll get there when you take your time and go slowly. Let her lead you to where she needs to be. When that happens, you will enjoy the moment as well. Then you can enjoy your moments with her in the afterglow.
2006-07-10 01:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Morphious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trial and Error. Experience will come over time and keep in mind that she is only nineteen years old so she might not know what turns her own 100%, yet. Patience is key.
2006-07-10 01:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Vyrsace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
barring any physical problems that may be causing it,women are so psycho about bad experiences it could have great effects.
2006-07-10 01:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
though points have been made about her not knowing herself try aphrodesiacs like strawberry's cherry's and chocolate, and lots of foreplay, along with carressing of her body during intercourse.
2006-07-10 02:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a catholic priest !
2006-07-10 01:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by jefdjif 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋