2006-07-10 00:59:56 · 22 answers · asked by Naadu64 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry, meant unecessary (oh forget about that spelling)
2006-07-10 01:01:47 · update #1
Consider this - is the lying harmless, or does it affect your life. If harmless - then he likes making up stories - leave it alone. If not then talk to him. There is too much of impatience shown in a marriage, take it easy. We don't have walk out on each other. Talk to him, sit with him. Everybody has flaws - there would be many who would give a right hand for a loving and caring husband. Take stock of the situation and then take your decision.
2006-07-10 01:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by 40andgoing 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't talked to him about this, then I suggest you confront him and ask him why. If you have, and he says he'll change but reverts back to lying again, then that might be a problem. I dumped my ex for lying. He was always in denial but I wasn't going to let him play me for a fool. It was probably the best thing I did for myself because I found out later that he lied about many other and more important things (example: "What? No, i don't like her, honey!" *turns around* "Hey you want to go out to a dinner and movie tonight, cutie? My gf doesn't mind.") Anyway, not that I'm saying your man is unfaithful, but lies are generally a result of a combination of fear, shame, and problems with the ego. If you want to stick with him in the long run, then you have to realize that this is not a small problem you can fix overnight. He'll have to go through some kind of magical and powerful realization that what he's doing is wrong or get some help (professional or otherwise) to stop lying. But, until then, if you've already talked to him about this, and he hasn't made an effort to stop, then you'll have to ask yourself how much you're willing to put up with it and is it enough to still want to be with him? Two choices, either you'll have to live with it in frustration....feeling defeated from your efforts to change him (bc he won't) or have courage and leave him.
2006-07-10 08:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by sugargongju 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe first, before over reacting, try to find out exactly why he lies about small things....I know it's really hard to trust him but there could be some underlying reason for the fact he feels the need to lie to you...
Did you two have a row over something and he lied to make it better? So he keeps lying now to keep the peace??
Whatever it is, don't just leave him - lying is a form of defence so definately worth working it out together!
2006-07-13 09:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would dump him as i don't like liars or to be lied to....and if he can lie about the little things without a problem he is more than likely lieing about the big ones too.
Only you can make up your mind what you will and will not tolerate or be able to live with. If you can not deal with a liar, dump him. If the lieing is not that big of a deal to you and all else is good, keep him.
We all have things we can and can not live with....question you need to answer for yourself is do i want to be with someone who lies to me....which promotes lack of trust as you don't know when he is lieing and when he is not.
So how important is Trust to you and how important is being told lies to you? Answer those two questions for yourself and you will know what to do with this guy.
2006-07-10 08:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to have a sit down with him and bring this to his attention. I suffered from the same thing. Lying about dang near everything and for no reason.
My therapy taught me I was trying to put another face foreward besides my own. I had serious esteem problems.
I am still struggling, and I have to think for a moment before I speak, but I have improved greatly. There is hope!
2006-07-10 08:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he's loving and caring if he lies? Could be just a con job to cover up the real him. Sorry, but a liar is a liar and someone who lies, can't be trusted. How can you have a relationship with someone when you never know when he's sincere? Take a closer look, there's nothing honest about him.
2006-07-10 08:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by lmdragonldy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him out of your life. You don't need to be lied to every time you turn around. I'm sure you don't enjoy being lied to, or wondering if he's telling the truth this time. There are plenty of guys looking for a good girl, and they won't mess with your mind with lying over nothing. You can do LOTS better!
2006-07-10 08:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by thatwench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dnt blame the guy cos most of us gals love lies so that things can be moving,your love sees(is not blind) that why u were able to see and know the lies,then u have to sit him down and talk to him that you know that hes telling u lies,so that he can change n realise that u know him 2 well
2006-07-10 08:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by ebonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you trust anything he says.
Lying is just a symptom of a deeper problem.
If you're not married to the guy get out now while you can!!
Truth and trust are essential to any lasting relationship.
2006-07-10 11:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ilsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him because if he will lie about unnessary things he will lie about things that will hurt and inform
2006-07-10 08:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by amydtld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋