My son had an accident when he was 15 which left him with a traumatic brain injury an amputated right arm anf left side paralysis. Our other son has downsydrome and is 13. My husband left us when we needed him most...about 4 yrs. ago. We remained friends and lovers and he helped me with the credit cards but now he's seeing the woman he cheated on me with before and is pressing me for a divorce out of court...Nows he's not giving me as much money since he's back seeing her...she cheated on her boyfriend to be with my husband. My friends think I'll have a nervous breakdown if I don't get on some antidepressant. I've tried them before and they just agrivate my irritable bowel sydrome. I also am having problems getting things done.I can't focus and forget things . I'm 53. My husbands 40.
2006-07-10 00:46:00 · 10 answers · asked by Cynthia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My heart grieves for you, child. Such trials we sometimes face in this world. He wants a divorce out of court to make things easier for him. Get a lawyer, and have your soon to be ex pay for it (shan't be a problem, at least not here in Texas). Take care of you first. You have children that depend on you. Simplify your life as much a possible. Therapy, rather than drugs, is a great start. I pray for you and your family.
2006-07-10 00:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead with the divorce. He's probably half the reason for your state of mind. If he doesn't pay child support you can turn him in to the law. Focus on your sons and get ready for a whole new chapter in your life.Good Luck!
2006-07-10 00:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a lot going on in your life right now it seems like you was ok with not filing for divorce before he started seeing this homewrecker again, you should get treated for depression, your kids dont have a father so they need you more then anything your their support you have to take care of yourself and once you get that taken care of then get a divorce but you dont need to worry about that until your better.
2006-07-10 01:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cynthia, it sounds to me that you are an amazing woman with so much love and compassion to give but you need to be careful that all that beauty is not used against you. in the relationship, post you being together it sounds a little like he wanted what was best for himself and shunned responsibility when times got hard. In all what is going on between yourself and your hasband, how have the children reacted to it all, do they influence your feelings for him or are the feelings you have purely yours?
One of the places i look for my answers to marriage (As i am newly married and learning) is the Bible, here is a passage from Ephesians 5 verse 25.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself (died) for it.
Meaning that man should be willing to lay down his life for the one he has bocomed one flesh with.
Above is biblical. it means what it says, your husband has dishonoured this core rule. for the answer to this i would ask God, as no other on this planet would know your heart or your hurt better that he.
I will be praying for you Cynthia that you are free from Depression and believe in yourself for the beautiful loving woman that you are.
God bless.
2006-07-10 01:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor lady! sounds like you have been run through a mill. i think you should get some meds. see a lawyer (he is not giving you as much as he used to). a court will give you more child or spousal support. good luck babe!
2006-07-10 00:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently, this "man" is not going to be supportive. See a different doctor and get yourself together before agreeing to anything. Good luck!
2006-07-10 00:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce his cheating ***, slap him with child support and alot of your depression will vanish. This dude is bringing you down too much.
2006-07-10 00:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to calm down and put things in perspective. You possibly need to do both to finalize the chapter in your life in order to create a new one.
2006-07-10 00:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Just a guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of your self first. then go to court and fry his A$$.
take all of his money
P.S. that will make you just a little better...take all of his money
2006-07-10 00:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by nanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think depression
2006-07-10 00:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋