i havent seen her for 6 months as i am out of the country. she is 17 and had a baby 2 months ago the father left her for most of the pregnancy but turned up just 6 weeks before she gave birth and she was doing really well showing him that she was the boss and not taking any of his nonsence, but since she has had the baby he has taken over if they have an arguement he just picks the baby up and walks out with her. he is 10yrs older than her and already has another child that he isnt allowed to see but that really hasnt got anything to do with it. the reason i'm worried is that she has been out every weekend since the baby was 2 weeks old. how or what do i say to her when i get back do u think she has post natal depression and hasnt bonded with her baby or its him. u might think i'm interfeering but i know she will ask for my help or advice when i get back but i don't know what to say to her.
2006-07-09 23:47:56 · 7 answers · asked by blondebirdcrazy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
She was young having the baby...and I am no one to judge I had twins at 17 ALONE! So let her know this...this man has lived life and she is just begging to become an adult but if he cant be one she needs to if not for anyone else for her child. Tell her in due time she can shake her *** and have fun but for now there is a little person who just wants to be loved. Tell her your worried and care for her well and the babies well being and you just want to make sure that she knows she needs to do the right thing. If she ever needs you that you will be there for her anyway you can.
2006-07-10 00:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by MyBizNez 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to get a legal aid attourney and kick him out. Get together all the support that she has, and do it on her own. She's 17, and doesn't know alot about the world. I wasn't that bright when I was 17, and if the father is 10 years older than her who has a kid he isn't allowed to see, left her when she was pregnant to come back and use the baby as a pawn, then he should be outta there with a order for child support and a restraining order.. and your friend should grow up.
2006-07-10 07:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to her that she is in control that it is her right to ask for custody of the child and therefore the father cannot just pick the child up and walk away. I think you should tell her to leave this guy, he sounds like trouble and he's not going to be a good father and holding the baby as a weapon for her to stay with him.
2006-07-10 06:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they guy is no good, whuich is sounds like he is not, she needs to get rid of him. this could be done by her privately, or if this doesnt work then through the family court. As for her looking after her baby, it's not right for her to be going out every weekend. she probably needs much more support than she's getting, i know a few girls who had babies at 16 and they needed a lot of support to cope with it. you should offer to go round to hers at the weekend at look after the baby together, and go for days out etc, im sure the baby is cute! if she's really not bonding with her baby, or continues to go out when she should be at home, try to get a local counsellong number or mother and baby group, for teenage mothers. it might help her tremendously to talk to other people in a similar situation.
2006-07-10 07:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by jungle bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the child put up for adoption. Your friend clearly isn't mature enough for this huge responsibility. Out every weekend? Jes-s H C---st.
Who looks after the child while she's out?
Grrrrrrrrrr.
I tried to be more constructive, but now I'm on my high horse about the situations people get themselves into.
Just be her friend and support from a distance.
She made her bed......... she's got to lie in it.
2006-07-10 06:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she asks for your advice then tell her to get some help. a true friend will always be honest and stay beside them no matter what happens. if she doesn't ask for your advice try to talk to the father and ask him what's wrong with your friend. don't be afraid to ask GOD for help either.
2006-07-10 06:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think you need to talk to her mum if she is still about. If not you need to tell her to go to see her doctor to help her get help with the postnatal depression, and you need to tell her that she is the mum of the baby and she is incharge and he needs to step back, and help her and not take over.
good luck xx
2006-07-10 07:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by linsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋