My husband & I are married for about 8 years now. He told me that
he likes to fantasy me having sex with another man, and that's make him high. He even go itno some web-site to find one man for me and we chat together on site, and even insisted me to contact him thr sms/phone. I am not very sure about this, infact I do not like this idea at all, you know having sex with another man. I had tried talking to my husband about this, that I do not like this idea, but he was not happy, and ended up not talking to me for about 1 week. Please can someone give me adivce on this ? Why do some husbond want their wife to have sex with another man ? I really do not know what to do.
2006-07-09 23:33:33 · 23 answers · asked by Jenny.C2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seek first the kingdom of God... In other words, talk to God about it and then, be yourself... I'd try some different spices rather than doing that... After all, there are certain boundaries in all types of relationships that are off-limits... He may have crossed that one without your knowledge and needs to be released from the pain of shame. He may be manipulating you because then, after you've done it, he could say, "Well, you're to blame also. You, on the one hand, want to see him happy. That's what love's all about - sweet surrender - as you render to him in his need and he reciprocates. However, on the other hand, WRONG is wrong, plain and simple...!
Try talking it out w/him to find out what's REALLY going on in your unhealthy relationship BEFORE it's too late. In love, there are some compromises that never - EVER - need to be made. THAT is one of them. While it's true we learn by making mistakes (usually, anyway!), there are many just simply avoided.
KISS = Keep it simple, sweetie... Hope it all works out, but "I see the storm approaching long before the rain starts falling..."
2006-07-09 23:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be more considerate about what you like and how you feel. You have every right to reject his fantasy. Why some men like their wives to have sex with another man is a mystery to me, in fact I have a friend who's deepest wish and fantasy is the same, he even asked me if I would be willing to have sex with his wife, but he doesn't dare to tell her about his fantasy. If you really dislike this idea then have a talk with him and tell him you cannot have sex with someone you don't love and aren't in love with. You could also keep rejecting until he forgets about this fantasy. If it is possible do your best to see a psychologist and tell him or her frankly about your problem and don't be ashamed, you could probably get help in standing before this threat. Good luck and may God help you.
2006-07-10 06:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by rabb b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenny, I'm not real sure why some guys like the idea of their wife having relations with another man. I know that I don't much like the idea myself.
One other thing some one once told me several years ago. Never go to bed mad at each other that can mean some real late nights. But try it. TTYL
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2006-07-10 06:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by davE C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of your partner having sex with someone else is abhorrent to most people in a loving relationship, if this is what is exciting to him then he is to be pitied and you should be concerned as to what he wants from the relationship.
Personally, I would be out of there.
2006-07-10 07:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Nimbus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal. Marriage is between 1 woman and 1 man. If can't understand that, then it's time to reconsider your life together. He needs help or he needs to go.
2006-07-10 07:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tink yr hubby is out of his mind and he even actually have the courage to have a tought abt it in his mind. sharing u with another man. gangbang??? is he insane or wat???
tink u better look for a lover rather than a husband at least a lover with sleep with u only.
sorry to say all this but tink u better leave him now before he organise a gangbang for u with his frds.
take care...
2006-07-12 07:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not do it at all.explain to him the consequences...seek marital counselling. Sex is deadly a addiction just like drugs.Do not let it uin your life.
Your hubby is just so much influenced thru porn/chat lines. He needs to get out of it. come back to real life.
best of luck. Always pray and believe in your actions.
You can do it.
2006-07-12 00:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by yah o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just horrific, can't the guy be jealous at all????? how come he is setting you up with some one??? if you don't want to do then just don't. u r the one in it not him... maybe you should tell him that u agree to the idea but you get to choose the guy not him choosing for you and you choose some one you like. i think he will back off when he sees you interested in another man.. just do it for bluffing though.. he is sooo sick
2006-07-10 07:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you husband sound like a spoiled BRAT! this is HIS fetish NOT yours. you tell him flat out..." look i understand you like this stuff, but IT IS NOT FOR ME!!!!"
if he gets pissed about that..honey id reconsider your marriage!
he's going to get what he wants whether its YOU and another man, or he has a threesome with some other man and his wife. that is the fantasy he wants...and it sounds like he intends to have it.
he's being selfish! YOU deserve better!
2006-07-10 06:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are quite fortunate that he wants to give u another man to enjoy and spice up your bored sex life.
This would give treat to persons like me.
2006-07-10 06:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋