His Ques:m a bizman in Blore,India.This girl is practicing in a hospital in New Delhi.I have a loving wife,great kids.finances are a bit tight at the moment.but in 6-8 months should be more than enough money.I meet her once in 20 days.spend the night.we have great sex life.we speak for almost one hr a day on phone.She loves me.She still wants to find someone and get married by next year.she does not want my family life to get disturbed.i hate it when she gets to meet men with marriage on her mind.Our age gap also bothers her-what will friends and relatives say is the question.She once or twice said ...she might be using me.She has strong sexual urges and needs.Wants to meet me and have sex atleast once in 15 days.In the past she dated many men-just for sex.last 18 months or so she has been exclusive.She still gets attracted to men very easily.but shares every thought with me honestly.I long for her.Its affecting my concentration on work.Q:What should i do and make of this relationship?
2006-07-09 23:07:22 · 9 answers · asked by sanjay and renu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sometimes i think... if get enough money in business,,i will give a large amount to my wife.This will take care of my family for life.I can still be a good father.I can then start a new life.In this case my girlfriend may agree.After all we have only one life.Yeah there are concerns about huge age gaps.One more thing,this girl was on verge of a mental breakdown and depressed when we met 3yrs back.Today she is almost 95% ok.She and her parents think that my love and guidance has brought her back from a hopeless state.They say i am god for them and her,Whenever i have tried to FADE away-she slid back into depression and destructive behavior.She keeps telling me that her marriage will be tough for me.She last week offered to remain unmarried for life-to keep our relationship going,to avoid hurting me...But on most occasions she has a very strong urge to get married...get beautiful status of happily married woman in the society.Q:should i quit this relationship?when and how?
2006-07-09 23:09:44 · update #1
You're both nuts.
2006-07-09 23:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no buddy u r wrong, if she loves u truly she will never want your family who are innocent in this situation to suffer, secondly she can move on in life and yet keep in touch with u. don't be possessive , y don't u understand this when she was not there u still were living your life, nobody comes with us so detach yourself from such situations. think of it u will be spoiling her life too by holding her back from getting married. time heals,once she is accustomed to someone else she wont get mad, don't worry women adjust more better, then think of it what pain will your family go through and what respect your kids and wife will give u if u r caught. understand and be practical , rather than been emotional , life has more to it, dint make a situation worse when u can try and make it better, besides
for the girl u r a doctor u should not get emotionally attached to , this is not ethical. do some good duty.
try and help those who really need help, like someone who cant afford medicine and see that feeling is greater than the feeling of physical pleasure. the girl has a huge age difference according to Indian standards after a few yrs this relationship is naturally bound to get off the track. why suffer more then .get out of it right now to ease ur pain. remain good friends and help each other when required.
2006-07-10 06:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by Explorer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do u think wat u r doing is right?U say she has been dating men for sex and do u think she will stick to u.It might happen that one fine day she will also ditch u the way u r going to ditch ur family.
Just imagine why u went into physical relation with this women just cos she was depressed???I guess not ppl who are depressed and emotionally down need positive help but rather may be u got too involved and attracted to get physical.Did u ever tell her abt ur marriage and then get physical i think no....cos mostly pple first deceive then speak up the truth.
U have already spoilt ur families reputation and happiness.Just imagine can u bear it if ur wife of kids come to u say she is sleeping with someone else....how wud u feel.Money is not everything.U will have and give it to ur wife...then one day u will get bored with the physical attractin of this girl and then pay her off too is it?
Please try to convince her to see a specialist psychitrist.Just cos her parents say u r god do u think u r god....u have also acted like devil by spoiling some one else's life isn't it....so are u god or devil????If u wanna live ur life happily u have to come over all this "Do unto other's as u wud like them to do unto you"
take her to a good psychitrist who can tell her wat life is other than physical attraction....
Come on man...be a man and fight ur odds
2006-07-10 07:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Adi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the girl should find unattached man. it isn't fair to anyone if the man is married.
i am m/54 and need a doctor-lol.
2006-07-10 07:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is too long. Shorten it-make it interesting and then you will get answers.
2006-07-10 06:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this doctor needs a doctor.
2006-07-10 07:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really!!! You are wrong. You are married. Stop playing your self & her.. Let her go.
2006-07-10 07:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by nanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard brother, but you need to stop seeing her.
2006-07-10 07:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by scottpetsche 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
2006-07-10 06:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋