All I can say is that I wish I could go back to not knowing that these nightmarish thoughts could exist in humans. I never wanted to understand a lot of what I do now. I researched depression and how it is linked to mentall illnesses. I have retraced my life in order to find why I became who I was/am/want to be. I fully understand my life up until now, yet I feel that I am missing the information that I need in order to settle peacefully, mentally. Does anyone have a thought on this? Is there a psychologist on here anywhere by chance?? LOL!
2006-07-09 22:20:44 · 5 answers · asked by sraseye 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
OKAY, the answer regaurding co-dependency I can totally understand...situations of such, i have also researched(my mother's co-dep. problem).By reading your answer, I know that u understand what I am dealing with. My goal in all of this was to understand why i seek these types of relationships and how to end the pattern so it will not continue through my children. My goal is to end the "ViCTiM" status in my family. I know that can happen. As far as the 'missing info' i referred to...i think there is something more that I need to learn or understand that either provides sort of closure or peacefulness in all of it. i have fought with the demons of one who could most likely molest, kill &/or terrorize intentionally. luckily i was able to survive this abusive personality relationship. i am completly mortified with knowing these people can be anywhere...
no answer is okay...but i would like to read your thoughts still. THANX!
2006-07-09 22:56:13 · update #1
So did your partner molest children or rape someone? First of all you need to protect others from being hurt by this person and report him to the police, if you cant do that you need to get away from this person so he does not hurt you anymore, You werent playing the victim, you were the victim. If your partner truly was sociopathic that is a horrible situation and you should be thankful as hell that you got out. It will get better, have faith, I feel for you, I really do. Good luck.
2006-07-10 12:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ooo! This is a tough one.
You don't want to understand a lot of what you do now... I know what you're talking about I believe.
I'm not a sociopath, but my partners, when they eventually leave, have a completely different comprehension of their environment and a different mentality. For the most part, it all but drives them insane, so I do believe I know where you are! (not meaning locality)
I would need clarity concerning "these nightmarish thoughts" in an attempt to help. I may have a few answers for you...
The choice is yours!
2006-07-09 22:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Spawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well said!
The first step to being a better person is to acknowledge that you are the one with the problems. Blaming other ppl is denial and ceases personal growth. Have a clear goal. Try looking at things from a different perspective. If they are sociological problems, try seeing why (as you have apparently) others act the way they do.
Only you can change your behaviour. Hope this isn't too vague.
2006-07-09 22:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. You need to identify key points in your relationship and make sure you do not follow that relationship pattern again. What type of information do you feel is missing? Therapy is very helpful.
2006-07-09 22:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.... drop your co-dependent behavior.... you're CHOOSING to let someone else's choices affect YOURS... CHOOSE to walk away..... I know.... I've been "there" and done "that".... but most people don't want to CHOOSE the "responsibilty".... they LIKE being VICTIMS.... why???? becuase it works.... it gets them a lot of attention... a lot of "paydays" of one kind or another... for most people it's too scary to start life over and CHOOSE
2006-07-09 22:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by r_u_really_that_scared 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋