I walked in a bar to spy on my wife she was sitting in a both with a guy with a white rose next to her.She saw me coming in and tried to hide her face with a beer bottle.I left and she didnt even try to explain to me.Yes im still with her, she later told me that they were joust frieds from high school.
2006-07-09 21:28:30 · 28 answers · asked by atury_g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hmmm...... can you say AFFAIR?
2006-07-09 21:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you didn't ask her.
If it were a friend from high school she would of introduced you.
And if you were fallowing her, you must of been suspecious of something going on.
I know this hurts.......She is cheating.
Get counseling. Don't buy that story a second time or third or fourth time. If she feels the need to meet guys at a bar then she isn't into the marriage.
Put your foot down as a man and either fix things so you guys are 100 % or just accept the fact that she can't be trusted.
Then you need to move on. It will hurt, but it would hurt more to stay married and know you spent 30 years with someone who always cheated on you.
2006-07-10 04:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... she's hanging out at bars with some dude you don't know, by the way what did she tell you she was going to be doing? If she lied... Second, you feel the need to spy on her. Just let it go already, especially if she's lying to you. The anger and all the other crap that's coming is not worth it. I'm sure you've been with women before her, you'll be with more women after her. I just hope there are no kids to tie you two together, if not it's an easy decision- walk to a lawyer and don't look back.
2006-07-10 04:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's cheating, or about to cheat. Turning the other cheek isn't going to make it go away, or hurt less. And you were "spying" on her because you already had your suspicions. If you let it go on without talking about it, she'll continue to disrespect you with her actions. If she can't come clean, if counseling doesn't work, basically if you try all avenues to save the marriage, you need to leave. There's no point staying with someone who is deceitful and hurts the one they "love." In a way it's abuse. Do you really want to live this way?
2006-07-10 04:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that can be true and to me it seems to be the most probable condition....
doesn't that white rose explains that she is just friends with that guy.??
she hiding her face just of fear that you will think about something else... some b*ull sh*it......... thats why she haven't told you...
you spying your wife means that you don't trust her... the biggest strength in a relation is TRUST... all you need to give is her own space... you have to let her free.... you have to let her live her own life... or else you will have to face divorce....
she not telling you means that she is highly scared of you... she thinks that you take everything in a wrong space......
Mitr says......... if you try to hold the sand tightly, it will slip out of your hand.. open your hand and let it be there....it would not spill out... sand are the relationships..... and you are trying to hold it too tightly......
she might not have given you an explanation, cos she might have got bugged up with your behaviour like this..... you have to stop it man..... trust me.... you are doing things the wrong way.....
2006-07-10 04:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to tell you this my friend but man to man, u gotta keep ur wife on a leash man,
u should have know about the rendevous before hand not by spying, what if u found them in the bed toghether? what would she say then?
if u still wanna be with her, tell her that she has
to ask for ur permision everywhere she goes
and that's final.
2006-07-10 04:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by serjanis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does some one do if they are doing nothing wrong, just talking to a friend, and their spouse arrives? What is the correct thing to do? Introduce them, or maybe let your husband know you are meeting another man at a bar before you do it, maybe offer to invite you.......disrespectful at the very least. Kind of shady.
2006-07-10 04:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by frogspeaceflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married people should not seek single friends, specially not friends of the opposite sex. I make sure I introduce all of my male friends to my husband because I expect the same treatment. To me a date is cheating and she was definately on a date. Dont wait for her to prove you right with syphillis or something.
2006-07-10 05:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she's telling the truth then at least she's cheating on you with someone from the past and not some stranger she just met (i know you didn't say she's cheating but you know it. thank you classmates.com). dude you know what it means. it means the marriage is over. play it dumb if you want for a while and try to get evidence to use against her in court. but trust me it's over.
2006-07-10 04:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by cesar g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she try to hide something from you...
or they have an affair...if she met her high school friend, why she dont bring u along?why she hide her face?
This is my prediction....
it is up to u if u think otherwise
2006-07-10 04:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by nil imran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your overreacting over a rose glad my partners not you before now someones given me a rose whilst he's been stood next to me, he see's the funny side and knows im going home with him so she probably is innocent believe it or not women do have male friends, my best friend is male and also my partners older brother you have serious trust issues
2006-07-10 04:32:58 · answer #11 · answered by michelleramtulla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋