Im going on 9yrs of mariage with my wife, she decided to get a my space account.she has guys and girls as friends on there some of which are friends from high school and hasent spoken to them in a while.She know gets private calls on her cell, and one guy in particular calls the house when I'm at work.We argue about all of this stuff and divorce has come up. I don't know what to do I need you help.Or is this ok for a maried women to do..
2006-07-09 20:58:36 · 23 answers · asked by atury_g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MYSPACE IS NOTHING MORE THAN KIDDIE PORN...NO, IT'S NOT OK FOR A MARRIED WOMAN OR ANYONE ELSE TO BE ON THERE. THERE ARE RAPISTS, MURDERERS PREYING ON THAT PARTICULAR SITE!!!!!
2006-07-09 21:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like she is either looking to find old classmates online, or she is seeking interest else where. If she has the guy calling your house when you are at work. That's a sign that she is interested in more than just being the guy's friend, especially if he calls when you're not home.
Some married couples are on the site together to meet other married couples and start new friendships. Others are there to meet people on the side. Dude, go with your gut instincts, your instincts never lie, people do.
You need to talk with her about where you two stand in the relationship. Is she bored of you? Is she seeking relationships with other males outside your marriage? Just flat out ask her, and don't have her beat around the bush. Get straight to the point.
Does she want you or the dude on the phone? Tell her what's up with that. If she fails to give you a honest answer then you make a decision on how you want to handle your relationship.
But make sure you make the right decision. Don't make a decision based on anger. Good Luck
Just to note...Most men complain about their wives on that site. But it is not all bad..depends on what your searching for..
2006-07-09 21:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with it.. except that she's getting actual calls.
I have a MySpace, I'm married... but it's pretty obvious that I love my husband and son from the moment people see my site.. I have a Slide show of them, and my blog mentions them often. My profile picture is just of me smiling with my son. (Not the half-naked bed lay that a lot of women seem to do.)
I have mostly female friends.. a few males. If they get too flirty, I drop them from my friends list.
So.. it's not the MySpace that is the problem. It's your wife. You don't trust her, and it's pretty obvious that you have good reason.
Time to wake up and smell the coffee, buddy.
2006-07-09 22:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by TruthTeller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married and I'm only a teenager but my mom has been married to my dad for 21 years and she has a Myspace so that she can keep in touch with her friends, past and present. I have a question for you.. Don't you trust your wife? If you have concerns about men calling her at home while you are away, TALK to her. Don't accuse her or be judgemental. She will probably clue you in as to who he is. Another thing, she did marry YOU right? So there must be something about you that she likes. Talk to your honey and hang in there.
2006-07-09 21:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I have the same problem with my husband-i just posted a similar question. You know what, it hurts to find out your spouse is flirting with other people even if its online and even if they say nothing will come from it. This is how I see it, cheating starts somewhere. How often do you walk up to a person and automatically get to have sex with them?? So you have to talk to the person, trust them, have them trust you-when my husband put himself in that situation; flirting with women(online) and having her call him I got real pissed cause I love him and I confronted him about it. Asked him to stop. If he doesnt I am leaving him because he cant value how i feel about it-so he really doesnt care. Divorce has come up about this, and i am going to go through with it if things dont change.
2006-07-09 21:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok but it has to be clear to you that what is she doing in myspace. Even though it's a free world but the reason we get married is to share thing together. If there's many thing that you are not sharing, there come the end of the relationship.
2006-07-09 21:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not alright !! She is either experiencing or attempting an emotional affair.Go the limits because she is your wife, and absolutely nothing to this other guy, your wedding ring proves that. Communicate....bunches...find out what she is missing in your marriage, and share with her what you need also! God Bless you, I know this has to be extremely frustrating!!
2006-07-09 21:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by iamjaycee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is fine as long as she is not hiding something from you, y b/f has access to all my accounts and that's fine as I have nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to keep a secret, he knows all of my friends and could call any of them at any time. I would say that if she is hiding things and being secretive then she is possibly playing away. Ask her to be honest, don't shout and get angry but you do have a right to know if she is being unfaithful to you.
2006-07-09 23:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have a trust issue....you need to sit down with her and talk about how you feel...arguing will only make matters worse...
2006-07-09 21:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by BOO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously your marriage has problems. i doubt myspace is the cause. nobody can destroy a truly strong marriage. i have a myspace and a happy marriage so i would say yes it's ok.
2006-07-09 21:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by jbslass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋