What would a wife look forward to when swinging?

Question

That is when both consent to swinging.

Answer 1

The answers from rdhedhottie, intuition, and northindycpl are excellent, and I can tell these folks are either speaking from personal experience, or at least they are emotionally well-balanced enough to look at the topic without prejudice. I will just add one observation from my own personal experience. Women (more so than men) often discover and appreciate an amazingly liberating feeling. Basically, women rule the swinging world. Women tend to discover lots of opportunities for great sex, both with men and other women. A possible problem, however, occurs when the husband realizes this. Some will become jealous, even though swinging might have been their idea in the first place. Lots of couples and single women are looking for women. Not so many are looking for men. Some couples deal with this by following a rule: “We only swing together” – which creates balance. I, however, love seeing my wife happy, so we do not have this rule. She has lots of boyfriends and lots of great sex. I get way less “action” with my handful of girlfriends, but I am ok with that because, as I said, I really love my wife and I truly enjoy seeing her happy. Many men will not be able to handle this, but this does not mean they are selfish, etc., it just rare to find people with no feelings of jealousy. This is why the “we only swing together” rule is so common.

And now a few words about the negative answers above. I’m willing to bet that few if any of these folks are speaking from personal experience. Most of what they are saying is either completely ignorant, or based on a bad experience that they assume applies to everyone. (A classic logical fallacy called “hasty generalization.”) I am personally acquainted with well over 100 swinging couples and singles, and I can safely say that overall they tend to be more happy than the average monogamous couple. Sure there can be problems, and for some people swinging can be a disaster, but lots of swingers find their marriage growing stronger and more intimate over time. Obviously there can be risks of disease, but some basic care and common sense can drastically reduce these risks. I’ve never had an STD in my life, and I’ve been swinging for over 10 years. My suggestion: Don’t ignore the risks, but don’t be overly paranoid either.

If you and your husband are both excited about the possibilities, and are willing to keep in close communication about what you are feeling, swinging can supercharge your marriage, and make the world seem more vibrant and alive than ever before. There are risks and challenges, but the rewards can be wonderful.

Answer 2

There are lots of reasons that couples fantasize about another person and they do not necessarily mean that they wish to become swingers.

For one, many people enjoy watching others particpate in sexual activity.

Have you discussed bringing another woman or man into your bed? Does your spouse share the same fantasy? Are you both curious?

If so, a swingers club is the most efficient way to find someone to join you. But you could test the waters by stopping by one. They are all over...where you think they wouldn't be!


You can see some of the action, as it's very much an adult party!!! You don't have to jump right in, and people that have done it forever are eager to talk and tell you what it is like.

If your initial discussion reveals that you both are interested in swinging, you MUST develop a set of rules in order to be successful.

Rules allow each of you to understand each other's comfort levels, interests and "sore spots", and without a good set of rules, you will almost definitely suffer jealousy, and anger, and being uncomfortable.

It's a very big step in fantasizing and then making it become a reality.

You don't have to act upon it! The fantasies can be just as good!!!

The only way you will know what she will look forward too, is by asking her yourself. Everyone is different, some will go all the way, some won't with another person, some just want to watch...

ASK HER

Answer 3

northindycpl! Hiya! :D

I answered your other question already, which was similar, but I'll answer more specifically to the woman's perspective.

If you go about it the right way, fully prepared with accurate information, a full understanding of the risks involved, and in a rock solid relationship* with a trusting, trustworthy and compassionate partner, a woman can look forward to some serious sexual liberation. It's a dead-level playing field, where women are at LEAST the equals of men sexually speaking; if anything, the ladies run the show! You can look forward to learning how to treat other people decently, and learning how it feels to HAVE to behave like a responsible adult who doesn't resort to playing games, lying, and cheating. When you screw up, people get hurt, and it's your own fault. You really feel that, and it's a very good thing. No one holds themselves accountable for their actions, because it's an accepted practice everywhere to blame other people if you can get away with it. Not here. If you do something to hurt someone else and it happens because you cared more about your own desires than about their well-being, then you can expect to be chastised for it in some way.

You can also look forward to some serious intimacy with your own partner, and LOTS of good sex (with - surprise, surprise - your own partner!).

Overall, it's been a very good experience. Just be sure to get informed, and never, EVER do anything that makes you feel degraded or dirty. If it feels that way, you're doing something wrong, and you will only end up hurt.

*A "rock-solid relationship" is not defined by the absence of problems, but by the couple's ability to deal with the problems when they arise. Not IF they arise... WHEN! Problems and coflict are one of life's givens.

Answer 4

It really depends on what she wants, and what her partner wants.

The point of swinging is mutual enjoyment.

The only way to be successful is through open communication and complete trust.

Answer 5

swinging, as in open marriage???
if so, she'll look forward to the DIVORCE PAPERS that will eventually come

Answer 6

Divorce and the worst personal hell you have ever experienced.

Answer 7

STD's, pregnancy, divorce, possible pain, and lots of other bad things...

Answer 8

Meeting well hung men that know how to use that tool for all its worth and soft sexy women that know how to please that kitty...

Answer 9

Sorry, can't tell you because I don't approve of it at all.

Answer 10

ewwwwwwwww that is just gross get a life geez