I got in a serious fight with my husband, so bad that I am considering leaving him over it He has a female friend that he says is a good friend of his-until yesterday when i had my break down he denied ever talking to her, she denies ever calling my house(but i have caller id) I looked on his myspace page and he and her have been emailing eachother for a few weeks. He flirts with her online-bothers me till no end. He says I am crazy for thinking he is cheating on me, but if he isnt why hide the fact that they know eachother. It just doesnt sound right... well, i told him i just dont want him talking to her at all and he makes it seem like i am being unreasonable. i feel betrayed cause i hate being lied to. Those who have nothing to hide hide nothing. the thing that bothers me most is the fact he lied about knowing her.
2006-07-09 20:29:09 · 8 answers · asked by Michelle M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I definately don't think you were wrong. I can sympathize with you. I went through a similar situation with my husband and it does feel like a betrayal. It is bad because you begin to feel like he is hiding something all the time and you basically have no trust left. That leads to a miserable marriage. If something feels wrong, it probably is. I think it is very important for you marriage that your husband comes to understand why this is wrong and how it makes you feel. Don't let your husband flip the situation around on you. I know that trick all too well. You have a right to be upset and as a man that made a commitment to you, he should understand your position. I do think a couple can work through this type of problem, but you have to ask yourself and your husband if there are underlying issues that would cause him to seek out someone else. If he is incapable of understanding your reaction, I would really give some thought to whether or not I wanted to spend the rest of my life with a man like that. Good Luck!
2006-07-09 22:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't leave your hubby. My grandpa and grandma had this kind fight many many years ago. Even grandpa married that crazy woman and leave grandma with 8 children to lived by her own. Grandma went to this crazy girl, talked to her, and it didn't work out. So grandma think how to win grandpa back. She cook a delicious meal, talked nicely to grandpa, and dressed up wonderfully. I know this sound crazy but she finally win grandpa back and he still with us till today.
2006-07-10 03:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by nike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong about feeling this way. if he wants to flirt, he should flirt with you not with another woman. also lying about it and hiding it is just another thing, hiding it means there is definitely something wrong about it and he knows it will definitely bother so. so if he cares about your feelings, he should stop it not call you unreasonable...
2006-07-10 04:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DO NOT THINK FLIRTING IS CHEATING BUT I DONT THINK LYING TO YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE IS RIGHT EITHER// I DONT THINK I WOULD WANT SOMEONE BREAKING INTO MY EMAIL AND THAT IS JUST GOING TO MAKE THE PROBLEM WORSE/ TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND AND ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS YOU OR THIS OTHER WOMAN
2006-07-10 04:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant say you were wrong, cant say you were right. If you have is password, sign on as him and see what kind of things she says to him. He may have just been embarrassed and that is y he didn't tell you. and i know you know that men hate conflict-he wouldn't have told you anyway
2006-07-10 03:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by gerkitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think you was wrong you have every right as is wife to know . If you know he lied tell him you know he's lieing and tell him why .Then tell him to hit the road..
2006-07-10 03:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by mourningdove73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave now and take him for all hes worth, or email her and say something like he has herpes or something
2006-07-10 03:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by loca420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not wrong honey,hes probably cheating. when he lies and gets mad when you ask him about it hes already fooling around.
2006-07-10 03:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋