He is not just my boyfriend but my fiancee an at first in our relationship he was very touchy feely very freaky but now he has slacked up an he hugs me still an kisses me from time to time but now it seems like he wants to wait until we get married to go back to the things we were doing also as a child he was molested do you think that, that could be a problem also about him not wanting to be touched all the time ?
2006-07-09 20:25:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There's no way of telling unless you try to talk to him about what your concerns are, it could get you some information. Or perhaps get him to go to counselling if he hasn't because of the psychological after-effects of molestation that both of you might not know about. But to be honest, if he's prepared to spend the rest of his life with you: then he's attracted to you. You just need to work out any problems now before you get married. Whatever you do, respect his privacy and decisions. Good luck.
2006-07-09 20:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by @~>--T--<~@ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same problem here. Its not you. Yes the molestation could be a problem. It could also be work, family, money, any stress leaves a man cold. He probably wont tell you he is stressed either. Try spicing it up by doing something completely erotic. Try wearing nothing but a trench coat-or give his winky a kiss till he is ready then stop-then he will have no choice. Sometimes when its been a while its easy not to want to-but when you start back up you remember what u were missing.
2006-07-09 20:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by gerkitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the honest answer no one on yahoo answer can tell you what you need to hear. the only thing to do is explain your fears/ concers to him next time you see him.
tell him you want more of the touchy feely he may have backed off just because he thought he was seemingly too clingly or too touchy felly.
JUST TALK TO HIM IT IS THE ONLY WAY TO KNOW HOW HE IS FEELING AND WHY HE HAS SUDDENLY BECOME LESS TOUCHY FEELY WITH YOU>
2006-07-09 20:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes almost perfect sense right there, the only part i don't get is why wouldn't he want to feel up or get felt up by a woman.
2006-07-09 20:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by dungeons_and_dragons_super_pimp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible he has issues with intamcy...and the whole molestation thing doesnt help either. But if he wants to wait..let hime wait. the more u wait the more exciting it would be.
2006-07-09 20:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Aljohn T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be right that his childhood experience may be coming in the way.
Still you need to talk to him so that it won't hurt your future life.
All other things would come automatically.
2006-07-09 20:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could have intimacy problems because of it. yeah, but if you communicate openly you can work through that. and also, oral sex is not wrong. its in the bible in song of songs. as long as its pleasurable for both people then its all good.
2006-07-09 22:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by otc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wats d issue if he wants to wait for d marriage...??? give him time....may b he'll come back wid a bigger surprise
2006-07-09 20:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bond007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he may have intimacy issues.
2006-07-09 20:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you remove your top. only then will the truth come out.
2006-07-09 20:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by kurleylovescheese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋