He has a lusting problem. He said he will prove it to me this time.
Do they ever change. I was married to him for 7 months. Woke him up when I left. Now he wants to change. Help!
2006-07-09 19:14:57 · 15 answers · asked by aneulife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
y - these are clear sgns of men - u hv ur ans in ur questioon
2006-07-09 19:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by maloom.nahi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to trust anyone after something like that my husband did it to me about 3 yrs ago with my best friend and I seen them with my own eyes and yes i ask my self all the time why did i not just leave and stay gone.But i believed in us him and I.But I the back of my mind every day I ask my self.were is he at and what is he doing and who with.But you just have to look over it for a min and try if you truly love him then you will.But don't get so attached like nothing happened he has to prove it to you and it will take a long time.Make him show you he has changed and talk about it. But take you time and don't believe everything will be OK. most men that cheat once will do it again or if they lust then they will change and then it will happen again just watch your self and you will be able to tell your self when its enough and he is not the on good luck
2006-07-10 02:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by sophiababie03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, people can change, but usually, the thing they are repressing can come out in other ways. I cheated on my girlfriend and then after getting back together I stopped my cheating behavior but became angry all the time. People have to be who they really are and act on it. Since then I made the decision to let her move on happily while I had a serious of flings and bad relationships. After about 7 years of it a guy tends to grow out of it. Look at it more as an issue of immaturity rather than cheating. Some guys just play the field bc they are young and can; and while that temptation is there they will. After years of getting it out of their system (and getting too old) that behavior disappears.
2006-07-10 02:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheaters and liars do have the same problem actually. they think they are so smart that they will never be found out, well they are assholes and they are found out everytime. the problem is once u take them back, they feel you can forgive them and that they can get away with it everytime. changing them takes a lot of hard work and heart break that i am not sure is worth it in the end.. maybe he will change for sometime and then go back to his problem. why not try counselling with him and give just one last chance?? but if there's one lapse, then you should definitely get outta there with the least possible damage
2006-07-10 02:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think some people do change. Can you really forgive him? If he is willing to go to counseling for his problem and marriage counseling, then I would say stay and try to make it work. If you see results and you decided to forgive him, don't bring up the past again. Also, the changes should be in actions and character. Don't fall for the words and gifts. In the end, trust your own mind and heart. What are YOU really willing to put up with?
2006-07-10 03:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by mrsawatkins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Ugly and sad, but true.
And it's not easy to say but you are about to waste a lot of time
if you think you can make this work. Sorry baby girl. Life's hard enough and you don't need to be with someone you won't ever be able to trust again.
2006-07-10 02:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the going says..."once bitten/beaten twice shy....twice bitten/beaten never try..." Your trust for him is shattered so it take time and pain to mend it back again. Give him a chance to proof as a person may change for the better. If you don't give him the chance you will never know. After giving him the chance and he never change then it's never too late to take next course of action.
2006-07-10 02:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they rarely change! The ones that do not change and are not going to change, do nothing to rebuild the trust. They may put forth minimal effort when first caught, show little remorse to none, and BANG....back at it again.
2006-07-10 02:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by lewars5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once this happens you cant trust them belive me i was in that same way ack in 2001. but didnt know till.2003. i am a male as well i divorced her in.2003. once this happens you cant neve trust a spouce when this happens this i learned the hard way in my opion life is to short to worry over this and you dont care as once you did when you are done like that if in any way i can help you let me know my e-mail is as follows the_silverfoxx@yahoo.com no you never can trust one who has did this . my opion? fact...?
2006-07-10 03:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes a long time to get over a broken heart that makes it harder to trust people and i hope i am wrong but i dint think he will change
2006-07-10 02:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. If you take him back the first time, he'll figure he can get away with it everytime.
2006-07-10 02:19:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋