now i find out he even asked her to go out if i bring it up she starts a big fight and says im blowing it out way to far
2006-07-09 19:06:23 · 9 answers · asked by holdnnmyown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If they remain casual friends I think is fine being friends with her ex and perhaps you were feeling jealous that make you over sensitive and over react. I am sure you have enough confident in yourself for taking her as your wife so, if you don't have the confident in her at least you have confident in your self for not taking a wrong wife.
2006-07-09 19:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place, did they have kids? If they did you're never getting rid of him no matter what he asks her.
The important thing isn't what he asked her (did he really ask her out?) but what she said to him when he did. She should have set him straight immediately about the fact that he was way out line, that she is remarried, and she has no intention of cheating on her husband (you).
If she didn't, then she is toying with him and not defending her relationship with you to him. In that case, yes, you definitely have a problem.
2006-07-10 02:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO it's a typical Codependent problem of miscommunication and dishonesty. i'd go on and on about how to correct this behavior but you need to do some exploring and learning about your self and the relationship so, go to google and look up: codependency or get some info on relationships and start learning how to do one better than what you have now.
2006-07-10 02:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not blowing it out way too far. You need to remind her that you are the one she is currently married to and if she wants to stay that way, she needs to stop carrying on with her ex
2006-07-10 02:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur sure about him asking her out.. then this became near cheating... but u can never know.. the worst thing is imagining things and believing them.. talk to her.. and even if she makes a big deal of it.. stay calm.. and reasonably talk to her.. and the trick is.. dont yell.. just talk calmly.. and reasonably.. i hope it all goes for the best.. and i wish u luck
2006-07-10 02:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut her lose you won"t be Making Things Any Better By Hanging On Let Her Go Man!!
2006-07-10 02:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by 66hamerheadPD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that not the point..you want her to have friends but tell her she should also be considerate to your feelings because you both are now married and should be considerate and understanding
2006-07-10 03:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by GEN Gamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be concerned...thats not cool at all...she should have told him off when he asked her out again...but since she didn't be real cautious...sounds like she is playing games to me.
2006-07-10 03:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jimi L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's being extremely defencive.I think she's cheating.
2006-07-10 02:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋