Why are people so freaked out by gay people?

Question

God aside cause I already know the theory on how he does not approve but why is it that straight people are so afraid of gays? I see so many times how people react to these questions and I wonder why that is? Are you afraid they might hit on you? Are you trying to cover up hidden emtions or thoughts of being gay?Why be so insecure? I am a bi-sexual woman of coarse nad I enjoy the pleasures of being with both sexes. Both men and woman have different things to offer in a relationship both good and bad. If they are not throwing it in your face then why dwell in it? Someone please explain

Answer 1

i am of the 'don't ask, don't tell' group. have been gay since i was
a small child. i didn't tell my family til they asked, i told no one til they asked. people do freak, and i don't understand. i'm not trying to convert or seduce anyone.....i don't have a 'thing' for young children......the biggest majority of pedophiles is straight white men....but, still, i get the looks when people find out. i wait til they love me sometimes....and things still change.....like i get extra 'gay' points for recruiting others....i have never. i am 39 years old now....i have seen things change, but not enough. i am just me...i let others be just them...i do not judge....i wish they did not. to be truthful, i think it's a sick world that so many 'God Fearing' people have their minds so deeply rooted on what happens in my bedroom....it's the only place where we are different. i am a true virgin....i have never been with a man, i love women....i always have, and i don't see how a God that created me that way would condemn me to a hellish after life for something that was never in my control to begin with....
God bless us all.....

Answer 2

I think it's partially because it goes against what they have in a hetero-relationship, and it makes them wonder what the other half has that they are lacking. I don't think it's a problem with being hit on as much as it makes you question your own sexuality and feelings, raising the questions of having done the right thing by "hooking up" with a member of the opposite sex rather than another of your own. I think that the whole idea of homosexuality is an off-putting concept because humans are generally raised to be attracted to members of the opposite sex, and something that infringes upon that training is seen as negative and frightening. Keep in mind that humans seek to conquer or destroy what they do not understand, usually it's the latter.

And I digress...

No offense to you (hypocritical statement, I know, as everything one says or does is bound to offend someone else, no matter how politely or gently put) but I personally believe that bisexuals are just confused as to what they truly want, or are trying to bend the rules without breaking them completely, thus exiling themselves from the "laws" of mans "normal" society.

Good luck with your question.

Answer 3

It's unnatural....
That's simple.
It's not natural to want the same sex. We are taught it is wrong. I have a cousin that I love more then anything he's gay but ......
I don't understand him. I love him and hang out with him but I will never see what he sees and I don't think it's normal. You can't make people believe that way if they aren't gay. I don't think gay people should be treated bad in any way. I just think it's gross and freaky and it's not natural too like the same sex.
That's what I think. I don't dwell on it I just don't want to hear about it or think about it. I'm not gay so I can't feel or think the way gay people do.
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Oh plus I'm not scared of gay people I have 4 male gay friends... I love them. Just don't know what the crap they are thinking. ....So I'm not being mean. Just telling ya how I feel personally cause ya asked.

Answer 4

I find that most people who protest the loudest are those that maybe have feelings of gayness or bisexuality within them and it scares them. The way for them to redirect their fear, is to cast negative thoughts or actions at others.Many gay men turn to priesthood, thinking that it will make the gay thoughts go away.Bottom line is you may or may not ACT on your gay feelings,but even if you don't...it doesnt make you any less gay.If I as a gay man never had sex again....I would STILL be gay.And besides, I don't mind straight people...as long as they don't flaunt it in public...lol

Answer 5

People are afraid of the dark. They are afraid of the unknown. Most don't understand their own sexuality, much less someone else's that is "different." People use different mechanisms to deal with fear- ridicule, hostility, humor, violence, anger, etc. Society tells us that sex is wrong and dirty, but everyone has a sex drive and a need for sex. This sets up a conflict within, makes us uncomfortable, and causes us to adopt a mechanism to deal with that discomfort. It's all sex. We're all one. It doesn't matter who we love, as long as we love.

Answer 6

wow. i dont understand how people can react like that.

here's how i try to look at everything:

-not everyone thinks the same
-people will do what they want to do
-if someone wants to do something and it doesnt negatively affect me, then why should i care
-if someone wants to do something and it does negatively affect me, then i should find out why they want to do it

ok, applying those to this situation:
-some people are straight, some aren't
-people will be straight or not straight if thats what they want
(dont get too technical. im not getting into wether or not its a choice. lol)
-if someone else is gay, it does not negatively affect me. so i dont care.

and as far as what someone else here mentioned, i dont feel that gay people are asking for "special rights". i believe its called "equal rights". shouldn't all people be treated with respect? if you dont agree with what they are doing, then don't get involved with it. do you also think that all minorities are less intelligent and should be sent back to other countries? do you think women shouldnt be able to vote?

its interesting also to think about how different countries react differently to the topic. there are people in other countries who werent taught all of this hatred and dont really care about homosexuality at all.

i actually have respect for the person who mentioned they think its gross because they also said that its not a problem as long as its not thrown in their face. its too bad not everyone who is not into it cant look at it like that. if you cant imagine being that way, then thats fine. its not like gay people are out recruiting. unfortunately theres no commission checks on this one. if you dont like it, then you dont have to be a part of it. but why get into other peoples business who are a part of it? not everyone has to think the same way as you. as long as you respect each others decision to either participate or not participate.

Answer 7

i am not afraid of gay people, however i do think that they are disgusting vile human beings and that they are the decay of our society, now if someone wants to be gay, i'm ok with that, just don't try to get special rights because you choose to live an alternative lifestyle, and don't tell our children and the rest of our society that we have to accept what they do, now they have tv shows that make it look cool to be gay, our society does not have to accept gays or even be nice to them, i'm not afraid of gays nor am i insecure about who i am, and yes they are throwing it in everyones face, they want eveyone to accept what they do, and we don't have to, you are going to call me a bigot ( generally speaking ) because i don't endorse gays, they are just simply the decay of our society, and its a sin to be gay, thats if you believe in god ( Jesus Christ ) as i do, its just not right human beings are just not built for that activity, they are all disgusting

Answer 8

Because some people are insecure and can't take differences like that.

Answer 9

basic Plumbing

Answer 10

i personally think its pretty gross myself but i think if thats the way you and others feel you should have that right also i agree with you that its fine as long as its not thrown in my face