My family thinks that I do not make good decisions for myself and they think they know what is best for me. I know that The man I love is my best friend and I love him unconditionally. There is not a minute that goes by that I don't think about him. I have never felt this kind of love before. We know what the other is thinking and we always talk about everything we never yell. We have known each other for over two years and our relationship has just gotten stronger over time and I know that I am doing the right thing I am the happest when I am with him. I feel that he has helped me find a part of me that I thought I had lost. I do know that My family will not approve of my choice to marry him because I think they look at the outside and not the inside of people and they are blind to my feelings and can not see that he makes me happy. I am going to marry him and I am going to be happy because in the long run this is my life and I have to live with my decisions that I make.
2006-07-09 18:10:15 · 14 answers · asked by nyrwldstdrms 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well remember when you get married, your husband becomes your "own" family.. and he has to come first above the thoughts and approvals of your family, although its always nice to have their blessing sometimes its just not possible.. worse case scenerio they could stop talking to you, so u have to decide is he all you really need? if the answers yes.. then tell your family to kiss your rear end and that you'll send them an invitation to your 25th anniversary some day so they can all eat crow.. and if they still are a part of your life and dont like him, then u need to make it perfectly clear that although u cant make them like him, that they do have to respect him ... good luck hopefully they will see the light after your married and come around.. if not, i hope that the two of you live a happy long life together so you can laugh in all their faces later on..
Good luck
2006-07-09 18:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To marry without the knowledge and consent of your parents is bad. No matter how matured you are they are still more experienced than you are. You carry them along for two major reasons, one is to honour them and the other is to consider their opinion. Anyone who loves you will naturally love your family, you are only preempting their decisions. Except you know any good reason why they would not want you to marry the guy, otherwise i tell you, most parents want the happiness of their wards.
Inform them and introduce the man to them, I am sure, whatever comes out will be to your advantage.
Good luck.
2006-07-09 21:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck for the future! Maybe in some time things change and they will understand and be happy for u 2 aswell. Just one thing.. if your relationship is perfect then why not wait to get married and give your family some more time to get used to it?
2006-07-09 18:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are old enough to make your own decisions.Family always that though know best but they don't. If you are happy and your husband is happy that is all that matters.He makes you happy and you make him happy.Don't let them interfere. It will make things Bab for you and your family.Hold your head up high and tell your self with someone that loves me unconditionally and I love him.that is all that matters.You can try talking to them and sometimes it helps but not always.Keep your head up girl and everything will be fine.Good luck
2006-07-09 18:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by sophiababie03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same exact thing. I married my husband without anyone knowing about it. We had our reasons for this and never regretted doing this. Both of our famlies are very judgemental and think we both made a mistake but we have been together for 9 years and married for 6 yrs. We couldn't be happier. If you are happy with your husband enjoy it and focus on your relationship.
2006-07-09 18:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by mrsfcsn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to marriage you can't factor in family at all. Unless you are thinking about children you have from a previous relationship. My husband and I got married and no one in my family likes him. Does it bother me, yes, but it's my life and I do what I want. I can't allow my happiness to suffer because of what family members think, even my own mother. They have their relationships without caring about what I think, why should I allow their opinions to determine my future? Do what you gotta do woman, and marry that man if he loves you and you love him. It's your life!!
2006-07-09 18:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by TiaLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've answered your own question! :) I am glad you are able to reconcile their prejudice in your own mind. I only hope your decision does not drive a wedge in your relationship with them. If it does, I hope you can work it out.
2006-07-09 18:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live your life on your terms. Your family will get over it . Good luck.
2006-07-09 18:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you marry them anyway.. sometimes the family you choose is better for you than the family you are given
2006-07-09 18:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're of legal age, there isnt much they can do about it.
So just show them the rings on your fingers, and watch their reaction/response.
2006-07-09 18:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋