It just seems to me that I see a ton of friends and coworkers leaving faithful and good spouses and boyfriends for people they meet out of town, at a club, just started working with, over the internet. What makes these "guys" actions so special compared to the person they have been with that has been good to them for a longer time, years perhaps?
2006-07-09 18:01:09 · 8 answers · asked by zjjd4 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Sadly, BOTH men and women leave perfectly good spouses for flings.
It's not just a "woman" thing.
2006-07-09 18:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by smoofus70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The attention they get. At home they may be in a rut. Their significant other may be the nicest most wonderful person in the world, but if they are not getting the attention their mind needs then they will look elsewhere.
If they would stop and think though that maybe their partner feels the same way, they could work on the relationship and give each other attention, but for most ... for whatever reason... it is easier to seek it elsewhere than to work on the good you have right in front of you.
2006-07-10 01:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by purple dove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are lonely and needs satisfying for the moment. Anything to ease the awful
feeling that they feel inside. Especially abuse will make you take flight. Because
being good and not satisfying a woman or man needs is no reason to stay in a
relationship. Therefore one will leave and cleave to that which satisfy their heart,
even if it last only temporarily. Speaking from a woman point of view, I will not
stay with no one I do not love no matter how good they are.
2006-07-10 01:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe infidelity, unfaithfulness, boredom, depression, etc., all stem from the following:
SINFUL LIVE-IN CO-HABITANTS -
A. Relationships based on lust, premarital relations, and no focus on a goal for family - Two people making sin, distrust, and immorality the basis for their relationship.
B. Any children born from this type of relationship are considered "bastard" children, and are not welcome into the home by two responsible, loving, mature, and Godly parents who are prepared to "raise up a child in the way they should go."
C. Relationships for co-habitants will fall apart when the lust wears off and they are faced with problems that require strength, honor, loyalty, and a family bond.
D. Instead of consistency, respect, integrity, courage, and faithfulness to God and to each other, these co-habitants feel guilt, shame, and embarassment because they are not husband and wife as their children get older. Sin formed these relationships, and sin will destroy them---if the parents do not do what is necessary to correct the problem.
SINFUL MARRIAGES:
A. God is not at the center of the family and the family is easily attacked by sin.
1. The husband does not take his role as the head of the household. He does not see that the spiritual health of his family is just as important as the physical health of the family.
2. The husband and the wife do not bind together in the scriptures, putting on the whole armour of God to withstand the attacks on their marriage and home as ONE unit. Each has their own lives at their jobs and at home, and neither are seen by the children (if there are children) as a working, functioning, loving unit that can keep them safe, healthy, and in harmony.
B. Husbands and wives are not keeping their marriages strong internally by being accountable to one another. If husbands and wives cannot depend on each other to make each accountable to the other, then there can never be trust or the ability to communicate with each other or their children. The marriage destructs internally because problems are no faced together honestly, honorably, and prayerfully. If the marriage is not put first in a home, then the family will be open for attacks, temptations, selfishness, greed, unrest, and infidelity.
3. Lust takes the place of love; suspicion takes the place of trust; doubt takes the place of confidence; and apathy takes the place of leadership. Once you replace all of the nurturing tools with "selfishness" tools, then the marriage is no longer important to the husband or the wife.
4. The children of the marriage are not trained or shown how to honor their parents, obey instruction, or to respect discipline. Children in destroyed families have been trained to be selfish, selfserving, and focused on their own wants, desires, and pettiness, rather than being taught their roles in strengthening the family unit.
2006-07-10 10:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what happened to my friend, his wife left him with her two girls and their son for her ob gyn doctor. He dumped her after a few weeks and now she wants to come home. I guess she got tired of the whole mom, wife job, not going out much or getting wined and dined anymore. He wants to be a family again so he's taking her back, it's hard taking care of 3 small kids by himself. We all think he shouldn't take her back but he's gonna do what he wants.
2006-07-10 01:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by cocoacure83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the new guy actually treats them like a woman, spending time with them, and giving them attention, which doesn't happen im most marriages after a few years and a few kids.
2006-07-10 01:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe one reason is woman are not satisfied what they need especially caring and loving person... because woman loved to be cared and want always that they are assured for that.. but because sometimes men are too busy and sometimes they just to they want, so they neglect to strengthen the relationship... though they are good man
2006-07-10 01:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by nej24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boredom is one reason and many other deeper reasons you surely arent privy to. they often say what a woman wants to hear, though often they dont live up to their online romance.
2006-07-10 01:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋