I never got back to him over the phone. He lives with my parents 1,000 miles away from me. I wrote him a letter apologizing for waiting so long for my response. I told him I had my reasons. This made me feel very guilty. But I just couldnt bring myself to call. Was sending the letter the wrong way to handle it?
2006-07-09 18:00:08 · 8 answers · asked by Dakota81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been in your same situation. You really should have called, but the fact that you even got back to him is a plus. Meth is a hard thing to deal with. You have to deal with the fact that he could get back on it. Thats something I am sure you don't want to deal with..your right in your decision. Just make sure to keep an ongoing relationship with your brother. If he ask again, let him know how you feel plain and simple.
2006-07-09 18:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥o_wise1♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing, especially if you told him that you could not have him staying with you. When you talk with someone personally, they can apply pressure, make you feel guilty, give you grief, and in the end you may give in to something that you did not want to do. It's hard to turn someone down, but in this situation you need to think of yourself and how having him staying with you will impact your life (it probably won't be good). If he is staying with your parents, he's not on the street--stand by your decision.
2006-07-10 01:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by besoseda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're okay. If he stays clean and works a 12 step program, he'll understand completely and not hold any of this against you; in fact he'll be contacting you to make amends. If he stays clean, some day he'll probably make a really good roomie, but he probably won't have to beg for a place to stay anymore. I'll pray for him and your family. Not that many meth addicts make it in recovery, something like 2%. I've been off that crap for a couple years. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-07-10 01:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutley no right way to handel anything with a person on meth or any other hard drug . My experince with my sister for almost 20 yrs. has shown me that she fights the drug everyday. There is no such thing as being off for one month. Year after year I have tryed to help and suport her and time after time the results are the same. She scams me rips me off and most of all destroys her presious girls. One of the best things an addict uses is guilt on u and the entire family . I feel I must be very dumb because she can scam me for anything. Just last night my niece who lives with us told me her mother offered her drugs and alcohal. I was sickened so deep in my heart I thought I might collapse. My sister has gotten so sick she has to bring her own child with her so she can feel ok with what she is doing. My advise for you is stay as far away as u can from your brother. Let him learn how to help himself. None of us with this problem can do one thing for these people. They have learned how to get through life on scaming , lieing ,steeling. They know no other way. Your trying to help and feeling guilty is doing him no good. Drugs go deeper than anyone really knows. 20 years my husband and I have put out thousands of dollars ,hours of time and most for us took away the time our own child needed and time that own marrage needed. Please take heed, your brother willend up sucking the life out of u and or your family. They will seek out the week one , the one with the bigest heart and when u don't respond to them they will make you feel like u are the worst person on eath . I hope u listen to me . I can save u much heart acke , time and money. Live your own life , love your brother from afar. Never hate him but keep him at a distant from u. There is so much more to tell but the main thing is let him make his own choices to live life as he has chosen. Best of luck to your loving heart.
2006-07-10 01:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd reach out to him anyway possible. He is your brother, and he could probably use the help. he could turn back to his old ways and cause some trouble. However, to help him clean up his act even more could be worth it.
2006-07-10 01:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Antwan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't handle him going in to a relapse,then don't cause it can happen.it will be just like raising a child with a.d.d.there will be good days and bad ones.
2006-07-10 01:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to call..........See how he's doing.....
2006-07-10 01:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, as long as you were honest with him
2006-07-10 01:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋