About six days ago my boyfriend of about a year broke up w/ me for another girl but now I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant w/ his baby. How should I approach him?He left me for another girl and I still love him and don't want to mess them up but I think he should at the very least know. I just don't know how to bring it up to him. We're also still a teens.
2006-07-09 17:54:43 · 9 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I refuse to get an abortion by the way. I'm almost positive that I'll keep my baby.
2006-07-09 18:00:07 · update #1
I'm finding out I might be pregnant AFTER we broke up though so I can't say he left because of that. We didnt have any idea at all.
2006-07-09 18:01:34 · update #2
first of all you need to find out if you are. go to a clinic like planned parenthood and they will tell you so your parents will not be contacted/confidential, then think of the what if's.
Also consider that no matter what he may say he may also bolt and leave you all the responsibilty of the baby in the end. Adult men find the responsibility all too much and do it all the time. So, although you may want to think positively don't. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst... being a single parent. Consider also if you'd be ready too. At 23 I went ahead and had a baby with a man (older) that was very sucessful in business and swore to be a good dad. I had to put off college and work, even thoug my family and friends helped me the whole way, my life has never been the same. I lost my young adult years, and now at almost 30 I am just getting back into college (where I should of been over 10 years ago). The father has stayed (mostly) in my child's life but I wish I had never told him because he is immature and a bad influence on the child. He rarely pays support and is always making my personal life and parenting ability a challenge. If you are pregnant please consider what would be best for the child not what you want (what your feelings tell you as sometimes when we are hurting or in love they can betray our better judgement). A relationship at this age already did not work out once, what makes you think the added stresses will make you too a better couple and to try again? Sorry, but if I were you I'd:
*find out for sure
*decide to keep it or not (adoption or?)
*but plan my life as a single parent (unless you are for sure that he is 100% one of those rare few men that are amazing with kids, will provide for them, and be a good role model and influence on it)
2006-07-09 18:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Desiree M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make darn sure you are definately pregnant. Go to the doctor or health office and have the blood test done to confirm it. Once confirmed, then you tell your ex-boyfriend. You are right in telling him because he definately should know. Don't just blurt it out.. and tell him face to face. Start out by telling him that you are not trying to come between him and his new girlfriend but you felt out of common courtesy that he should know that you are pregnant. He might freak out and tell you that he doesn't believe you etc. That's when you need to tell him that you had it confirmed by blood test with a doctor before you told him. It might or might not become a very hard conversation depending out what kind of guy your ex is, but remember to try your best to stay calm no matter what because stress isn't good for the baby.
As for keeping your baby... don't listen to folks on here that tell you to get an abortion because they are complete idiots. You have other options if you decide not to keep it such as adoption. Many wonderful people out there want children but can not have them. Just keep that in mind just in case. I feel strongly that you'll keep this baby and be just fine though.
Best of luck with everything, and I will pray for you hon. I am currently 8 weeks pregnant myself. :)
2006-07-10 01:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by rainbowbright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before you say anything, you need to take a pregnancy test, if it's positive, see a doctor. No need in scaring him if you actually aren't pregnant.
Then you need to decide whether or not you would want child support from him (asuming it's his baby). Input from your mom or friend would be super beneficial too (or someone that knows him).
Based on your desicion, I would call him and ask him to meet at a coffee shop or somewhere where he won't spaz. Then tell him that you are pregnant, and would like a paternity test once your baby is born to make sure. I would just try to word it so that you are careful not to make him feel trapped or that it's his fault.
Best of Luck and Congrats! :)
2006-07-10 01:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by justagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GET AN ABORTION..IF U HAD SEX WITH THIS GUY AND NOW UR PREGNANT...TAKE IT LIKE A WOMEN..AND START THINKING LIKE A MOM...ALL U HAVE TO THINK IS BOUT THAT CHILD COMING TO THIS WORLD...MAKE SURE U HAVE A HOUSE AND BABY NEEDS...BUT PLZ DON'T GET AN ABORTION
2006-07-10 01:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be pregnant and he broke up with you? How convenient for HIM. Tell him you are pregant right away and go from there. Have a parent help you figure out what to do.
2006-07-10 01:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure before taking any action.
Get checked or take a home pregnancy test at the very least. Don't mention any 'suspicion' until you have confirmed it.
2006-07-10 00:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by PommyTom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abortion is d best option
2006-07-10 00:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be pretty sure, be sure that you are pregnant then approach him and let him know. don't forget to tell your parent.
good luck!!!!!!!!!! and best of wishes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-10 01:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by shania02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just "accedentelly bump in to him"!!!
2006-07-10 01:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by babie_gurl1006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋