2006-07-09 17:52:33 · 22 answers · asked by grandma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No....not at this stage of the game. The baby comes before the father's visitation rights. If this is a good and caring father he won't push the issue. Baby's nourishment trumps father's visit.
2006-07-09 17:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Presuming he finds an alternate source of food, sure.
Breastpumps can supply some - possibly not a whole weekend's worth but some milk. Depends, if the mother plans ahead and saves some milk each day he may well have enough.
The only real problem is the teat - a bottle is easier to get milk out of while a human nipple often harder. Babies don't always like to switch. Modern equipment should probably overcome this, but you can ask a nurse/babydoctor (forget the term) to give you advice. Could be an old wives tale too.
I see nothing wrong with it. Even if he uses formula for those two days, it won't do the baby any harm. If the parents cannot be together but both want to be important and caring parents then early bonding is very important.
2006-07-09 17:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Some Geek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend it...it's really not at good idea. It 's critical that he is with her now more than ever. You could try, but I promise you, you'll be running him back to her!!! Just wait till he gets a little bigger....now really isn't a good time. I noticed a lot of the others mentioned the mother could pump milk, but if she is trying to build her milk supply then he really needs to nurse off of her. The baby's suction is the BEST thing for bringing the mothers milk down!! Besides pumping can be very painful and She may not be able to pump enough milk anyway, since she is just starting. Over the weekend her breast will become engorged and that too is EXTREMELY!!! PAINFUL!! Also it is very hard for a newborn to take bottle nipples, and if he does then when he gets back home, he may not want to nurse. You will only confuse the baby and risk him not ever nursing again (the BEST!! Nutrition for a baby). The whole thing really becomes a BIG mess, its just best he is with her, or her milk could start to dry up!!! A weekend is a long time for him and her at this stage!!!
Be Blessed!!!
2006-07-09 18:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by AAP0305 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good one.
A test for "reasonableness" would state that the fathers rights to visitation were just as important as the mothers.
The needs of the child would rise above the needs of the parent.
It's reasonable that a child is raised on formula.
It's reasonable that a child is raised on breast milk.
The lack of parental bonding created by the mother having an "unfair" advantage over the father by nature of breastfeeding would NOT equilibrate into denying the father's visitation privilidges when over-the-counter formula is readily available, and indeed, may be more socially acceptable to meeting the childs needs instead of one-sided bonding with one parent.
I find for the father having unencumbered visitation rights which would serve to fully meet the needs of the developing child.
2006-07-09 18:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can, the mother needs to contiune to pump while the baby is gone and the mother need to pump and store the breast milk in storage bags to send with the father for the weekend. Make sure that mom pumps enough to feed the baby the whole weekend. Breast milk can be stored in the fridg for 7 days or frozen upto 6 months.
2006-07-09 17:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth. Being a mom that breastfed her baby (although I am still with my husband), I really believe that a newborn is sensitive and needs stability. They need to have mom's touch when feeding from the breast. I think that its best for the first couple of months for the father to take the baby for a few hours at a time, mom can pump for a short visit like that . That baby has been in mommy's womb for 9 months and I think it is unhealthy to be trudged back and forth for days at a time. It causes insecurity! I think that if the father cares about the baby he will understand. I don't think however that you should limit him to one visit a week. The father needs to see his baby and the baby does need to get used to being with daddy as well. This is also an exciting time for daddy. I know that I don't know your situation and I don't know what kind of fellow daddy is but baby needs security. It's so important! Good luck with your dilemma.
2006-07-09 18:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by sammytoes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
usually, the court system will say no, bc the mother is providing nurishment for the baby, and it is not recommended to express milk for long periods of time, w/out nursing. maybe something could be worked out, tho... if the parents live somewhat close together, the father could take short visitations, inbetween feedings, or even, if at all possible, both parents could meet for however long as needed.... ( i know this is not the easiest, or most practical of choices, if the parents are not together) but, keep in mind, if the parents are not on good speaking terms, try to not hold judgement against the father for wanting to be w/ his baby, nor against the mother who is doing what is best for their
child...
2006-07-09 18:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That'd be up to the judge and by the time you get through court the baby will no longer be a newborn. But maybe if mom and dad are civil, pumping breast milk would solve that problem.
2006-07-09 17:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mother, I would not suggest taking the baby away from the mom until it is a few months old.I guess you are not together so i do suggest getting over any differences you have to be good parents to that baby.Spend the time together to give a strong support system.
2006-07-09 17:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by tajura001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes as long as the mother uses a breast pump to get enough of milk out to last for the whole weekend.
2006-07-09 17:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by christina j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋