I was working with this girl 6 months ago. We worked together for a week on reception. Getting along really well, and I asked if she wanted to be friends on her last day - she was a temp staff for a week.
She agreed yet I phoned her once or twice, she was too busy to meet me - she had a legit reason. But I've emailed her probably once a month and have never got a response. The thing is, she seemed really interested and she did respond once.
When we agreed to be friends, she even suggested that I have dinner with her and her partner sometime???
My last email basically went on about how its not polite to not respond to emails. The email before that said 'are you not interested in being friends anymore?' Obviously not interested, but is it normal that someone won't tell you, they'll just ignore your emails? Or could there be something else?
A thought that crossed my mind was that perhaps she had feelings for me, and didn't want that to interfere with her relationship. Any ideas?
2006-07-09 17:20:45 · 10 answers · asked by Maggs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If a person is not responding to your emails, it could mean that she is truly busy in life and has no time left on her plate. It could mean that she decided she really did not want to be best buds or whatever, and maybe thought YOU were coming on to her as she perhaps felt you were being a bit pushy, and she did not feel comfortable with that (she does after all have a partner). Working with someone for a week does not make them great friends, as it is in a work situation. Maybe when you phoned her once or twice, she realized this and thought that maybe you would just let it go if she did not return the friendship as some people have a difficult time saying "sorry but don't really want to continue the friendship" and did not want to hurt your feelings but had no good way of doing that. Perhaps you were a bit eager and it made her a bit nervous. I would let it go, not worry about what she feels, move on, and find new friends. You just weren't a good fit together after all.
2006-07-09 17:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with the majority here, just leave it go.
I will also add that possible maybe her mate don't want her to socialize with anyone but him
I worked at this one plastic shop for almost two years as a temp. I made a few good friends their. We exchanged addresses and phone no. As much as we hung out together and come to be comfortable and friendly. We were there fore each other when we needed comfort. Yet when our job ended we have never bothered keeping in touch. I guess the truth of the matter is we were only work buddies. The one girl lives across the street from my daughter and went to my high school with me. We weren't friends or enemies in school. We knew each other existed. When we ended up working together we became good friends, actually good work buddies. This is no doubt the way it is with yo and your friend. Don't take it personal....
2006-07-09 17:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol man stop calling and emailing your sounding desperate. Even if you waited a month between emails. If she really wanted to be friends she would contact you. Some poeple think by aviod the situation they are sparing some ones feelings, when they are just making it worse. Give up. Never think you always have to do all of it cause it isn't really a friendship that way.
2006-07-09 17:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jakefeatherston2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert but I can relate to what you've said there. I'm having that problem right now with a friend. He'll hardly speak to me on IM,e-mail but be talkative to other friends of mine. In your case it could be a combination of this person doesn't know what to do or didn't see your e-mails there. But I do know that sometimes it is,if it happens more than once for more than a week then it's not normal at all.
Try e-mailing this person again,see what's on there mind there.
2006-07-09 17:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Gadget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just forget it. You only knew each other for a week in a working environment. There is no basis for assuming any feelings. She was really nothing more than an acquaintance and obviously is not interested, so drop it and move on.
2006-07-09 17:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you got the wrong email address? If not maybe she doesn't want to be friends with you anymore. If I were you I would stop trying to contact her and make new friends.
2006-07-09 17:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamcatcher_chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Why are you emotionally stalking this person. She doesn't owe you anything.....leave her alone and get yourself a real life. This is kinda spooky.
2006-07-09 17:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE SOMRTHING HAS HAPPEN TRY TELEPHONING HER,AND LEAVING A MESSAGE
2006-07-09 17:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by gastongurl2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesn't ck her email.
2006-07-09 17:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just not into you.
2006-07-09 17:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋