I am so frustrated with my life right now.. I feel like Im stuck in this situation and will never get out. I have a 2 year old son(who is not talking yet) and I am with his father. Thing is, I have wanted to get rid of this guy since I was pregnant. He has an uncontrollable temper(which he takes meds for but its still out of control) and every time we do ANYTHING together it turns into a fight. I am so miserable and I want to leave him but every time I try and every time I tell him to leave he always ends up coming back. I know it is part my fault. Im 21 years old and despite what other people say, I CAN NOT raise this child on my own. I also think Im suffering from depression. I am always tired and frustrated and angry with this guy. I never let my anger out its all bottled up inside and I cant take it I just feel like I could explode. I have no one to talk to about my problems my family is not the sharing type. I have 1 good friend but she's miles away. I just need some help.. please
2006-07-09 16:58:48 · 10 answers · asked by erin_marie360 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also this guy FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome) and one of the effects of that is that he cannot understand or has difficulty with logic. He doesnt realize that when I say we are though I really mean it.. and I tell him DONT COME BACK but he always does.. one thing we are fighting about today is my cat. I have had her for 3 years and she has just recently got sick and I have to take her to the vet. We cant afford a huge vet bill right now because HE just bought a car.. he might have to borrow money to get it and I asked him today if instead of borrowing for the car if we could use it for the vet bill instead. He totally freaked on me and said "well no what if I need it for the car..." OMG I could have beaten him to within an inch of his life. He cares more about his car (which he has 5 of) than my cat and my feelings. Sometimes I just wish killing stupid people was legal.
2006-07-09 17:16:48 · update #1
OK you need to really step back and take a look at your life. You are 21 and have a two year old child. Do not get me wrong I am not saying one thing bad about you. I was 21 when I left the father of my 4 children. Your child will be affected by seeing his father exploding the way he does. My children are in counseling and it has been six years since I left because my ex was the same way. I realize you say you can not raise this child on your own. Yes you can you will have to put your life on hold to do what is right for your son. There are agencies to help pay for daycare and other needs of single mothers. You will have to do without a lot to do this. But there is no need for you to live your life so unhappy. Of course you are depressed this man is killing you on the inside and he will do the same to your child if you do not leave. There are shelters out there and they will help you. I stayed in one for awhile. You sound like you have shut yourself off from the world which is what he wants. Do what is right for you and your son. You are a mother you can do this. Do not let him ruin your life even more.
Good Luck.
2006-07-09 17:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. Its like nothing in life is real, that its all one bad dream, but it is real and thats what you have to realize first. Second you have to realize that life has been placed in your hands, not just your life but the life of a child, and that you alone have the ability to control it. You need to get rid of this guy you are with for your sake and the sake of your child because things escalate over time, and what is currently a verbal thrashing could turn into physical thrashings on both you and an innocent child. You say that you cannot raise this child on your own, but in fact many single women do. It is not an easy feat and its going to slam you down many times but if you dont at least try it your dooming a child to having an anger problem father and a depressed mother. Give it a shot, and if it doesnt work out there are plenty of guys out there that will love you the way you need to be loved and they will care for your child. And as far as depression goes, I think its just that everything has hit you at one time, get out and i bet it will get better.
2006-07-10 00:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the simple thing would be is to get out of the relationship. it could get worst and the fact that there is a baby involved he might end up snapping and hurting the baby. you are to young to be depressed . but since you are that can be another problem as well. not saying that you would but you might explode on the baby or him for that matter just because you keep everything inside. i think the solution to this is simple. let this guy know what he is doing to you. i mean really sit there and explain in depth about whats going on in the relationship. he really needs to get it in his head cause if he dont you guys might go down hill .
2006-07-10 00:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by baby-boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be your friend. Really.
You can raise you child by yourself. Im not saying it is easy but if it is best for you child you should want to. You are not in a good enviorment and your child can pick up on that. Please be careful. And if you feel unsafe, say a prayer and run.
2006-07-10 00:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by JulyBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to a battered womans shelter. They will give you a place to live, not the greatest, but its safe. They will help you find employment and daycare, and help you get on your own two feet. Best Wishes.
2006-07-10 00:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever makes you happy. Make sure your child is the most important thing in your life and set out goals to become a better person.
2006-07-10 00:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get some counseling. Or talk to your doctor about perscription Zoloft.
2006-07-10 00:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Max K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you'll have at least 5 more kids before you actually mature.
2006-07-10 00:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Pancakes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
refuse 2 read all of that buddy
2006-07-10 00:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by noni 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ill get back to ya
2006-07-10 00:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋