He has the house I worked to pay off
I moved out rather. Stay with him, I have not been happy with him in about 8/9 yrs now.
We have a son 23 yrs now
He has also moved out. He told me, He can't take it anymore also
He is loosing friends because of him being so moody, I am thinking about getting a divorce,
I am in touch w/ some old friends now, He didn't want to
talk with, He is a very controling person.
He is holding my car from me, I am handy capped right now because of a {Knee replacement} that went wrong.
I am talking 2 my X husband I have NOT talked 2 as good friends. after 25yrs.also, Good friends with his wife also.They have ask me 2 come and see them..with my knee like it is right now.
I can't.
I don't want to be alone the rest of my live.
I do love my husband, He has to fix him self from here on.
I've tryed everything can. if it goes to a divorce and he gets better, We can remarry.
What would you do in this marriage?
? Stay or Divoce ?
I want peace to heal
2006-07-09 16:55:15 · 6 answers · asked by Nancy D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First thing you need to do is find a local meeting of Al-Anon which is a support group for families and friends of alcoholics. Start by visiting their web site listed below and read about how it works. Attend a meeting and talk to people after the meeting. You will find many, many people who share experiences similar to your own and help YOU to live YOUR life better.
2006-07-09 17:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by cc smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can your friends pick u up?.. Obviously you do need some
help...Do you know someone who you can depend on until
you get back on your feet?.. This marriage sounds like being
in hell ya know ? Don't allow anyone to treat you with dis-
respect, or they will keep on doing it. Some people are
just plain cruel and mean. I would rather be alone than put
up with ANY man who doesn't treat me like I want. I was
married for 9 yrs, to a mentally and physically abusive"man".
He almost destroyed my life. I got out by the grace of GOD.
It took me along time to get out, but I regained my good
senses. I am happier now and far better off. You can too.
I have a cat for company, that's all I need really. It's just not
worth the misery and endless effort to stay in an unhappy
relationship...ya know? I pray you will see the light, because
there is light at the end of a bad relationship...It will take a
while to get used to living on your own, but when you look
back, you will never regret it!! Trust me. I know. Everything
will work out fine. Life is not easy sometimes, but as long
as you have some emotional support, you will feel better.
We all still have our tough days, but overall, DEFINETLY
way, way better. Ask God for guidence, to help you get
through what you must. He will always help you.....Since
you paid for the house ( was it before you were married?) you
are entitled to keeping it. But if it is community property, then
better off to just sell it, take your half and go on with your life....
He may try to fight you for everything, if you want a divorce. If
it were me, I would get a restraining order on him, so he has to
leave the premises, immediatetly. This is a last resort.... But
you will probably have to lie and say he has been threatening
you and you are afraid of him, and really play the part, ya know.
This way, YOU won't have to leave your house. Because my
guess is, he won't leave willingly. If you ask him nicely or not.
I hate to suggest for you to lie, but really, unless you want to
remain stuck in that situation, it will be hard. But this is your
life and your decision. But that is what I had to do, but my ex
almost broke my nose, so my reason was for real. I made him
leave the state, or face the charges. He left the state. So, now
I don't let any man tell me what to do, ever! I am stronger.
You can be too. I pray for you. I hope you make a good decision
Good luck, and take care. SM
2006-07-10 00:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you, woman? You do not have a marriage! You say you love your husband - he is not a lovable man - what's to love? You just don't want to be alone. Believe me, being alone is much better than your situation. If you think you love him, then do what's best for him, You will help your husband by getting out! Your husband needs to be alone to face his demons. You can't seriously be considering living like this on an ongoing basis! He cannot have a relationship with his disease You have got to get some self respect! There are people that will help you get shelter, so NO excuses, get out and get mentally healthy!
2006-07-10 00:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is unwilling to change (and that means more than just saying that he will change), I would divorce, heal myself, and learn to love me before even considering meeting anyone else. A controlling person is a very insecure person and that takes some time to change. So unless he is already seriously working on himself, I would suggest to take a new direction for your life. Take care and good luck. And wishing you well with your knee.
2006-07-10 00:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Roxw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce....at least you will get half the value of the house and your car back...probably more once the lawyers get through with him.
2006-07-10 00:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want peace, then you should leave. Good luck.
2006-07-10 00:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋