He wants to restart the flame that we have had for over six years. We just called it quits about three months ago when i caught him with an nother woman. We also were going to get married this September, before things got messy. He has an woman pregant and she is only three weeks. He wants to be back with me so we can start over. We now live far apart but he wants to move down here with me. What should I do? I love him dearly but I am confused with how to handle this. Please Help For I Make An Huge MISTAKE.
2006-07-09 16:44:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a good question. It sounds to me like he only wants you because he can not have you. He didnt want you when he was with you or he would not have cheated. He cheated because he wasnt happy which is not your fault. He needs to take care of this child he has now conceived. Granted he does not need to be with her to do it but he does not need to be with you. I understand you love him but think of the torture you would be putting your self thru every time he has this child over. You could not get out of your head that he conceived this child while he was supposed to be in love with you. He messed up and people make mistakes but you should just find someone else you will feel the same love you had for him for another. You just need to give yourself time to heal. In my oppinion I feel it would be a mistake for you to take him back.
Good luck and I hope you are happy whatever decision you make.
2006-07-09 16:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get back with him (the cheater!), you will really commit a huge mistake - for yourself, your life, and your future. If he can cheat on you now that you're just an item, what more if you're already a couple? He's not worthy of your trust, he's proven it himself. Maybe he just want to start a purely sexual relationship with you. Turn him down. Accept the reality even though it's painful. Then move on.
2006-07-09 23:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated big time on you, plus he got another woman pregnant - that's a bad sign of things to come. Remember, when the child is born - there is child support - money and emotional support needed from the father for the child. You'll always be apart of this other woman's life because of his child. He's not marrying material - find someone who will never hurt you like that. Dump him - find someone else!!!!!
2006-07-09 23:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH THIS GUY AGAIN!!!!!
He cheated on you a mere 3 months ago, he destroyed the trust you had in him, and you were set to marry this guy! Also, he had gotten another woman pregnant?!?!?
I realize that you may have truly loved him and may still engender feelings for him, but look at the situation. I understand that you are confused and it is hard to think logically. But look, he has messed up your life and screwed with your trust. DO NOT LET HIM BACK IN AND MESS UP MORE OF YOUR LIFE!!!!! Consider yourself lucky that you caught him cheating before you got married or heaven forbid became pregnant with his child.
You are very lucky, consider yourself blessed and move on with your life. It will be hard and take time, but you will heal and move on and find someone that truly loves and deserves you.
2006-07-09 23:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be REALLY careful before you decide on this one. This guy sounds like a hot potato for sure, and you're bound to get your hands burned. I know how much it hurts you to turn your back on someone you've love for so long, and I'm in the same situation as yours, exept I don't know for sure if mine was cheating, although I suspect he was. If it wasn't for him getting someone else pregnant, I would say, "go for it", but if she carries this baby to term, and has it, this is going to be an issue for the rest of his life, weather he wants it to or not, at least financially, as he will almost certainly have to pay child support. That's just the beginning of a long and way too complicated situation. My advice to you is to just throw this fish back-it really stinks! There's lots of other fish in the sea, and you deserve a guy who can give his whole self to you, and you alone. Good luck!
2006-07-09 23:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheat once he will cheat again. Trust me it only gets worst. Of course they will do whatever it takes to get u back. Remember a pair of lips will tell you anything. After six years he should know not to get a girl in the street pregnant obviously he got so comfortable with her he was having unprotected sex he could have brought you back something you would've had to live with for the rest of your life. I would rather live with a broken heart then something that would treat my health.
2006-07-10 00:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by J'sGurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! that would be a huge mistake if u take him back!!! he got another girl pregnant...nope thats goin 2 be a big mistake...what if that girl has something and then u and him get sexual again..u will get it...if u love him alot then let him go...if he did it once..then what makes u think he wont do it again....
hope u make the right choice
2006-07-10 00:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by .:BaBy J:. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you already know the answer to this but i'll tell you anyway you're in love with a loser. You were together over 6 years then he go do something stupid like this. You don't need the drama or him tell him he made his bed now pay child support and have a happy family.
2006-07-09 23:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
Run! Run away fast. Dont talk to him! Dont go out with him! Stay away!
Show some self respect.
Show some courage.
Show the rest of the world your not a weak minded person who will settle for someone who treats you so very poorly.
Or take him back and be miserable for the rest of your natural life after he goes back to his cheating, coniving, and terrible ways in 2 months... at most.
2006-07-09 23:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by profit0004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make that mistake. Huge mistake. He cheated before you got married...so now he thinks it's ok with you, because he crossed that line...but you still want to take him back. Kick him to the curb, if he ever comes back anywhere nearer than an arm's length.
2006-07-09 23:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋