He wants to restart the flame that we have had for over six years. We just called it quits about three months ago when i caught him with an nother woman. We also were going to get married this September, before things got messy. He has an woman pregant and she is only three weeks. He wants to be back with me so we can start over. We now live far apart but he wants to move down here with me. What should I do? I love him dearly but I am confused with how to handle this. Please Help For I Make An Huge MISTAKE.
2006-07-09 16:41:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course you still love him. Six years is a long time. You cannot be with someone that long without it affecting you.
The question you have to ask yourself is: Is this what you really want? A man who cheated on you right before you were set to be we. A man who then turned around and got another woman pregnant. Are you ready to handle that. Can you trust him?
The problem is you trusted him before with your heart and he broke it. Is there really enough love there for you to find it in your heart to forgive him and start all over again?
If you can't answer these questions with a firm yes or no, then you should reconsider getting back with him. However, if you really want to 'try again' with him, the first and foremost thing I would suggest is taking it slow (ie no sex immediately) and couples counseling.
2006-07-09 16:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation i new my ex fiance for about 10 yrs we were together for 4 yrs and we were going to get married and i was pregnant alot of peolpe told me not to get married but they didnt tell me why. My Guy Friend told me he was cheating and that he had someother girl pregnant but i dindt belive it because that same guy friend has wanted to be with me for the longest and had lied to me before .so I had our little girl ,and she was already six months at the time and about to get married when i found the other girl and she told me she had a baby by him wich was only 4months old so i couldnt take it and i loved him and he was my fiirst and my only even though we had alittle girl i left him that same day it was so hard for me because i told him i would forgive you for waht you did but i cant be with you and i am doing way much better and he left the other girl with 3 kids and has somebody else pregnant only because she dindt want to leave him because of her first baby. i would suggest you would just let him go because if he cheats once he will do it again and thank god you found out before you even got married or had kids. And now i am married to a wonderful husband for 4 yrs with my 5 yr old girl and one on the way im actually due on the 19 of July .
2006-07-09 17:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by sharps2@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you get decrease back with him (the cheater!), you'll quite devote a wide mistake - for your self, your existence, and your destiny. If he can cheat on you at the moment that you're purely an merchandise, what better once you're already a pair? he isn't any longer worth of your believe, he's shown it himself. perchance he purely pick to start up a only sexual relationship with you. turn him down. settle for the reality in spite of the indisputable fact that it is painful. Then flow on.
2016-11-30 23:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by brummet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T Do IT. He will cheat on you and continue sleeping with his baby's mother. Don't listen to him when he bad talks her. It's all for show. Don't Do it, you will regret it. There is no starting over and no second chances after you make a baby with someone else. Do you want to live the rest of your life seeing this kid, paying child support, sharing your man and your money. It happen to me and it's my biggest life regret! Move on. Qucikly. Let him live with his mistake. Sorry.
Love Stinks.
2006-07-09 16:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by JulyBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!! If you go back with him and he hurts you (again)it will be worse than last time and you'll feel retarded that you fell for that again.If you do go back with him don't get pregnant and do it on your terms.And i think the only reason he wants you back is because he doesn't want to be with the pregnant one.He might not realize he lost the best thing in his life but I wouldn't do.
2006-07-09 16:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by mya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm......NO!
If you get back with him and he cheats on you again you might both end up on Jerry springer with his pregnant lover.
Not worth the headaches...
2006-07-09 16:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by MOZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him, give him a second chance but if he messes up again then it's time to move on
2006-07-09 16:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember 1 thing , he's your X , for a reason.
2006-07-09 16:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to shove it, it sounds like you deserve way better.
2006-07-09 16:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Bright Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋