my firend is the type of person who doesn't believe anything negative people say about her.that's all good but when she does something she asks us for our help but doesn't listen and blames us when something goes wrong.she's gotton her butt beat befroe because she argues with people and expects them not to yell back and not to hit her back but she hits them first.i know her better that her own mother and i need to know a good way not to hit her before she hits me like i want to.
2006-07-09 16:37:35 · 6 answers · asked by mya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She seems to be a hot head. try to explain to her you don't
like being hit. If her behaviour continues with violence. Let
her know that you wish to distance yourself from her until
she can be grown-up. And be mature.
If that fails! Pray for her and keep your distance.
Violence solvesd nothing! She seems to me to thrieve on
being a bully.
2006-07-09 16:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by fsh3i1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hit her. If she starts arguing with you and blaming you for things, give her the cold shoulder for a while. That will make her see that you aren't going to put up with that. Then you and her mother can sit down with her and tell her how she goes about things isn't the right way and that hitting people doesn't solve anything, it only makes it worse. If she does hit you before any of this happens, she's not a very good friend and you should have the right to decide whether or not you can be friends with her. Whatever your choice still sit down with her and her mother, discussing with wrong of her actions. Everytime she hits someone and gets into a fight, she ruins a perfect chance of making a new friend. Tell her that no one likes to be yelled/hit at and will yell/hit back. Say the golden rule, "Treat other the way you want to be treated." It may sound cheesy, but it actually works.
2006-07-21 03:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Allyson B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you and your mutual acquaintences are around when you tell her what you need to say. If she doesn't respect what you have to say then maybe you all shouldn't be friends anymore. It doesn't sound like it is worth the pain and suffering. She sounds like a bully and not a friend at all.
2006-07-21 15:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that if she starts the drama...that ur not goin 2 help her becuz she brought it 2 her self...but if some 1 else starts it then its up 2 u if ur gunna back her up...i dont know what 2 tell u ...but if she hits u..hit her back twice as hard...so she can learn
2006-07-09 23:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by .:BaBy J:. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 her...if she dont listen....slap the $hit out of her...LOL
2006-07-09 23:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Patty's Tat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whouaaaaaaa. tell her what you just told us and if she does not listen, learn to live with her like that (sacrifice!!!)
2006-07-21 14:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by dark_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋