i have this friend we are exes and ive been trying so hard to be his friend for the past few months that i havent been listening to his pleas for space the past few months we talked today he finally stopped by he owed me $ from 6 months ago we used to be the best of friends even right after we broke up but hes changed alot and so have i hes really into partying now its pretty much all he does and he surrounds himself with those people i find that life exhausting but i have been really just trying to be there for him because hes been going through alot latley but ive just been trying to be his friend be his friend now i know i was wrong he said key things today that struck nerves he all he wanted was time away from me he wanted a close frendship again after time i didnt give him that now im pretty sure most chances of a future friendship are shot he said the situations been very irritated and he had to take his space. Im hurting badly i dont know where to turn or what to do,
2006-07-09 16:30:44 · 4 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The first thing that struck a nerve with me is how you said 'he's changed a lot'. He's partying, hanging with different people, etc. It sounds like this is the path he's chosen to deal with whatever issues he currently has going on in his life.
Don't blame yourself at all. He's decided to morph into someone completely different than the person you once knew him to be. If he wants to go out and party, let him. If he was a true friend, when he gets to his senses, he will come back around. You were trying to be a good friend by being with him. If he said he needed space, perhaps you didn't take it too seriously because he's going through a lot.
Either way, all you were trying to be is a good friend. He sounds like his head is shoved somewhere midpoint up his a** right now, so he can't really see all you were trying to be is his friend. In time, he will realize this.
And if he doesn't, then he doesn't. You can't blame yourself because you did nothing wrong. You tried to be supportive and concerned for him. You need to hang out with your friends, have fun and don't dwell on the situation. Your true friends know you to have a good heart and will stick by you through this tough time. Good luck to you.
2006-07-09 16:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't neccesarily mean he won't gravitate back to you later. Right now, he's just having a selfish faze, wich is normal after you break up with someone. Just try to take it easy, sweetie. I know in my heart that you're a good person, or you wouldn't even care. Take one day at a time. Try to force yourself to do something new every day, and talk to new people you don't know. I know it's really hard for you, but try not to talk about him to everyone you come in contact with, but only with just one or two trusted friends. Do special things for you, and for the people who love and support you, and give yourself time, honey. Things will get easier, I swear.
Remember that a really wise man once said that some things are too big to get over, some things you just learn to live with. I remember that when I first heard that, alot of the hurt from a broken relationship melted away. It took a little longer for it to go completely, but at least I was on the way to my healing. May you find your healing too, I wish you the best, Love, Angel.
2006-07-09 23:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with time all wound heal if you keep poking at it it will never heal
2006-07-09 23:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by Walther L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel
2006-07-09 23:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by TENAY R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋