I am a married guy but unhappy.?

Question

People says that I'm cute and hot. I really don't anjoy my marriage. I have no kids. but I can't get divorce. I want to have relationship with other girls. but I don't like to tell lie to people. I think If I tell them they will not be with me.Also I hate if the people think that I'm a pervert guy. What am I supose to do if I want to have a girlfriend?

Answer 1

I totally feel your pain. Almsot feel like i'm in the same situation.
Good luck to you finding peace and happiness.

Answer 2

If you are so unhappy, why wouldn't you want a divorce? What are you looking for in other women that your wife is lacking? You seem a bit confused its like your wife versus a lover on the side. you can't have your cake and want to eat it all. Do the smart thing and don't let these ladies put messy messages in your head. Be a man and talk to your wife. Lay everything on the table and she'll know where you stand in the relationboat. Don't play both, you might just turned out to be the loser.
Wait a minute, didn't you post a question earlier stating,"I'm gonna have a fetish experience. Is it better to go to a hotel or take her home?" Little boy, grow up!

Answer 3

Why are you unhappy? That is the real question. Yes lots of hot people are married, but you obviously got married for a reason. It is suppoed to mean forever and it is not something to be taken lightly or thrown away at whim. Where will random flings with other women take you? On the road to marry someone else or are you just on a quest to be bored, lonely and alone with an std? I say talk to your wife and let her know how you are feeling, it is not fair to her to hide it or to walk out on a relationship when you have not even tried to solve the root of the problem with her. Work through it, every good couple has a boring point or a point when they feel thier eyes wandering, what makes them strong is the ability to get through it and remain together and in love.

Answer 4

If you are not happy the first thing you think about should not be screwing around. Grow some balls go talk to your wife and see if it is something you can work on. Give her the chance she might not even realize there is a problem in your marriage.
You cant get divorced??? Well then Im not to sure what to tell you because you need to keep it in your pants how would you feel to find out your wife was sleeping with another man????

Answer 5

Why can't you get a divorce if you are unhappy. Why put everyone else thru drama just because you don't want to be faithful. Yeah you probably can find someone who will sleep with you regardless of your status but they will have issues and drama also. Because no self respecting woman will knowingly accept being the other women. Talk to your wife and tell her exactly how you feel it might open up some doors for you. Better to be honest than a lying cheat.

Answer 6

What people say you are cute? I'd guess that your wife did! So, you think that you are hot, huh? I'd guess that your wife thought you were "hot," maybe... So if you are so cute and hot, why don't you share that with her?

Do you have any idea of the realm you may be entering? Go to the adult sites and pretend you are a single woman. Then see all the married men that talk to you on the instant messenger. Ask them why they are cheating on their wives. They all say precisely the same two things: (a) She doesn't want it; and/or (b) she is ill and cannot gratify my needs. Then, ask him, "Why don't you try sex and marriage therapy?" I guarantee you that he will say that "she," meaning his wife, just won't consider that. Then say, "Did you ever ask her?" Then I guarantee you (especially in the a version) that he will reply, "No, she won't do it."

Now then, cutieboy, ask yourself, "What would I feel if I found my wife in our bed, having sex with another man?"

Do you think that you have the right to abandon the vows that you yourself, being of sane mind (are you?), took when you went to the alter?

I suspect that you are a very immature and impatient sort of man that doesn't think of his own faults as to why he is bored with his marriage. I do not think that such a man is cute or hot at all.

Why don't you look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, "Why am I considering putting my wife, who I believed that I loved so dearly as to ask her for her hand in matrimony, into a false sense of security, almost as though you are living in the motion pictures?"

Do you really think that you are going to find a perfect person (i.e., per your own words, a girl, not a woman) that is going to love you only because some people tell you that you are cute and hot?

How dare you not look at your own problems and rather think that you are simply able to just do whatever you want while you are married, and while you are pretending, only pretending, to love you wife?

What should you do when you fall in sex with a so-called "cute," and/or "hot" "girl?" This is what you will do, if you have any balls whatsoever. You will simply admire how she looks and then know inside of yourself that it is infatuation.

Do you have morals? And I want to ask you, cutiepie, do you romance your wife? Why did you marry her to begin with? Supposedly, you were "in love," not just "in sex" with her, right? So then, why don't you center your efforts on showing her how much you appreciate all she puts up with in YOU, and send her flowers all the time with notes saying how much you love HER?

Since you have no children, I certainly hope that you do not falsely believe that a child will make all right with your marriage, because it just becomes harder. So then, either get you and her into serious counseling and fix it, or else go pay a lawyer, and pay for her attorney too, so that you can admit that you never loved her and you do not want her because you are so damned hot and cute.

You make me sick.

Answer 7

there is no point being in a marriage that is making your life miserable. You are more than likely making the life of your wife miserable as well. The best thing to do is seek marriage counselling. At least try. It might be something so small erupting. Otherwise end the marriage it might be the best thing to do. But at least try to fix it before you stray. However, you must not be disloyal to your wife by going and finding yourself another girlfriend or mistress. you will hurt even if she feels the same way as you did and your marriage will end inevitably on bad terms instead of mutual terms. I think you yearn for differentiation in life that is why you want another girlfriend but that is not the best way to go. Try sort things out first for the benefit of you and your wife.

Answer 8

If u love your wife there are sacrifices that need 2 be made to make your marriage work. But if you are that unhappy then you should get divorced and don't drag your wife along for the ride no person deserves that. Marriage is not a game it is True and Honest love for one another. Would you like your wife to have boyfriends if she is married 2 you? Think about it.

Answer 9

Tell her/him that you are unhappy don`t wait until they can realize it well if people tell you that you are cute then take a chance of being with someone else it makes you feel worse if you stay with the same person and your unhappy baby if you want to have a girlfriend get an divorce and go out and look for a nice girl for yourself don`t keep holding back on something you want to do because your married maybe he/she wants the same thing you want

Answer 10

sweetheart, i think probably your problem isnt that you want someone else. If that were true, you would never have asked this girl to marry you. (At lease I hope you wouldnt). You must have loved your wife at some point in order to marry her.
My thoughts are that you are feeling a strong need to be appreciated, and loved and desired. Unfortunatley, as a married man, the only place you should be looking to to fulfill these needs is your wife. Absolultey nowhere else is acceptable. Im sure if your wife isnt filling these needs, its most likely because she is feeling the same way. You need to talk to her and gently explain to her that you dont feel she loves you anymore and that you NEED that to be happy in your marriage. I would most definatley leave out the part about wanting or even ATTEMPTING to find a girlfriend. The cute little things at the bar or that you meet in town are simply a temporary solution to a PERMANENT problem. You need to sit down and seriously talk things out with your wife. Im sure she's been having problems along the same like that she needs to get out herself. Good luck!!! Don't give in to the easy way out. Make this work! IT CAN WORK!

Answer 11

Marriage is not suppose to be about what that person can do for you, but what you can do for that person. You are really selfish, so if you were to get divorced, you would benefit your wife. My husband is not the most fun person in the world and he is not the most loving, but sticking with him despite his wrong and him sticking with me despite my wrong, makes me feel like I have the best husband in the world. Don't look to people to make you happy. It comes from within. You need to learn how to appreciate what you have. Maybe you could take on some extra activities like being a foster parent or helping out underprivileged children. Seems more like your bored in your life, not unhappy with your marriage. And let your wife know you need her, that's what she is there for.