well first my parents wont let me do anything not even if they know the person because they think that im going to run around and do stupid stuff which i told them and promised them i wont... and well with boys they are the same way i have ALOT of guy friends that they know are my friends but they wont let me see them because they might take advantage of me they said..hello i know they wont. and if they will let me date a guy they have to decided if i keep him or not and if they dont like him they wont let me see him and they will keep me from seeing him which that isnt right... and then i had a bf which i didnt like at all but my parents let me date him because he was a nice guy and i hated that but in a way i got to do everything without them worrying till i broke up with him because i felt bad for using him....so please help me!!!
2006-07-09 16:19:54 · 11 answers · asked by leslie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have a feeling that your parents are right... you had a bf but you broke up with him - why? - because he was TOO NICE?!? that says a heck of a lot right there. I knew a lot of girls who wanted to do whatever they wanted, promised to not get in trouble - and did anyway, as they found a guy who was not too nice. bingo. I am glad I listened to my parents, but then again I was not interested in finding a not so nice guy. The too nice for everyone else guy suited me just fine, and we have been married 34 years now. Show your parents you can be trusted by acting like it. Show them how mature you are by being mature. You show them for awhile, and really mean it, and they will then allow you to date and go around with friends (pick decent ones, you will be glad you did later on - that is what your parents are trying to make sure of, that you are with good friends who will not later on treat you not so nice.) They love you and want you to have the best life possible, and if protecting you is part of that, accept it and be happy they care!
2006-07-09 16:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove to your parents that you are trustworthy(they will return the favor). Don't try anything stupid like, dating a boy that they don't like or sneaking out. Then, they will never let you do anything. Try to act more mature, do chores without being asked, don't argue, don't fight with siblings etc. They will see that you have grown up and will let you have more freedoms. Don't use guys though, its just mean. Your parents may trust you, but not the guys. I know you feel your ready to do whatever you want but it may be best to wait until they're ready. Parents are supposed to know best, right. In the meantime, do like i said and try just hanging out with friends at your house to prove how nice they really are.
2006-07-09 16:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by gotgiggles??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were very strict, I was NEVER aloud to call boys, and my parents had to interview any boys that I went out with. But now, several years later, I am grateful that they didn't let me go crazy. I know it is hard to understand that now, but when you look back on you life as a teenager, you will be glad that you didn't make as many mistakes as other young girls do (drugs, pregnancy, alcohol etc.) Your parents want to make sure that you are treated with respect and dignity, and not like a slut -that many guys want. PS- It took me forever to realize that NO GUYS EVER EVER, just want to be your friend. They always have a quest to have a one night stand with you....Even the guys that you have known forever and like to hang out with you and call you....They would jump at the chance to mess around or date you....they are just too shy to admit it. so WATCH OUT and be upfront with a guy about what you want from him. (friendship or dating). Because otherwise, when you turn them down, they will say that you were a tease!!!
2006-07-09 17:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Pucci88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to address their fears in a adult venue. Like by talking to a counselor or you local head of worship.
Take all their complaints write them down.
Look them over and come up with a compromise that addresses their fears but that you can live with too.
They have your best interests at heart.
If you take some time to see this it might become easier to understand their side and come to a compromise what satisfies everyone.
2006-07-09 16:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 03:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,it's not that your parents don't trust you, they don't trust the other people out there...looking to prey on young girls like you.Also, they aren't trying to smother you or be overprotective, they are trying to protect you and keep you safe.They love you!!Talk to them and ask if you can compromise,so that your safety is not in jeopardy.Maybe you could have friends over or maybe your parents could chaperon your "dates".You have the rest of your life to grow up,date,and experience pain and hurt.Let them shelter you a little longer.
2006-07-09 16:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW Over protective! sounds like what Im going through right now. First of all how old are you. Write me some time so I can tell you what Im going through.
alessandraSP_56@hotmail.com
2006-07-09 16:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by allie laught alot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah..i know how you feel...but ther just being parents...the more protective the more they <3 you...by the sounds..they love you a lot!!well just like findp lenty of ways to prove your self responsible. like doing chores foe no allowance..babysitting...you know "responsible" stuff
2006-07-09 16:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by XxHomicidialfrenzyxX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having over protective parents is not a bad thing...it's better that they show they care and how much you mean to them...
2006-07-09 16:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by Bridgets Blind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt much i can really do...just talk to them or threaten them to turn gay....that worked for me..now i can date
2006-07-09 16:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by Myleaka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋