why do women allow men to abuse them? financially, emotionally, and physically?

Answer 1

Lack of self esteem more often than not. Plus living in denial, not willing to accept that a man who used to love them could abuse them and therefore just making excuses for his behaviour in the hope that he will get better.

Answer 2

Though you make think its as simple as the women "allowing" these men to abuse them. Its not really that simple. No one allows abuse. These men are smooth operators. They wear these women down slowly and gradually over time. And in such subtle ways that the woman may not ever see it coming. Once she realizes it happening, then there are a whole new range of emotions (disbelief that is can happen to her, guilt, hate, etc.) the woman may go through before finding the strength to leave.

And trust me this doesn't happen to only the weak, poor or uneducated. It can happen to anybody at any time.

I know a psychologist, from a wealthy family, her family was very loving and supportive throughout her life. Took her some few years to figure out that her husband was verbally, emotionally and financially abusive. A psychologist. It was very difficult to admit that she didn't see the signs and beat self up because she let it happen. She had a really tough time going through all the emotions. But she made it through.

What these people need are compassion, hope, encouragement and a non-judgmental ear to listen to them.

Answer 3

I think it's because regardless of the fact that someone is abusive to you they're giving you something you need, or that you think you need
eg. Making you feel protected and taken care of, it's contradictory but true. Like that little kid who lets his dad slap him around, his father is still the one that'll teach him how to shave, how to drive, he's the guy that's going to give him food, cloths and the things he needs.
It's often not as simple as it seems for someone to leave an abuser because of some form attachment. A lot of people hate their parents but they know that you can't just leave and cut off all forms of contact.
Also from personal experiences I can tell you that sometimes you don't really want the abuse to stop. Not that you go looking for it, but maybe because you believe it and think you deserve it, and that you're becoming a stronger person and learning something from the damage being done to you. People who are abused usually have a very low feeling of self worth. Statistics say someone who has been emotionally or physically abused is about 14 times more likely to die by suicide. What makes it even worse is that because of this the people who are abused let it happen, they don’t seek help even though they know they should.

Answer 4

I've heard a lot that the percentage of girls who didn't grow up with healthy father figures are abused by boyfriends/husbands more than the girls who had healthy father figures. This happens because the girls don't know any better about how a man is supposed to treat them.
Also- the don't it's a lot harder to stop abuse than you may think. It's not neccesarily ALLOWED. Low self esteem and what they believe is "love" for a man keeps them from realizing that thier relationship is unhealthy.Some women feel more comfortable with the man being the "upper hand" in a relationship, as well, no matter the result of the relationship.

Answer 5

Not all women like that. Only woman who has narrow minded, letting her self being dragging by emotion without considering the fact or thinking clearly. In this case indirectly we can say that she has no respect at all to herself.
If she has a self-respect, she will not let any men do that, eventhough that she really love the man but she will not do anything the man wanted if it comes to abusement (financially, emotionally and physically).
Once she let men do that it means she has losted her self-respect. When you have no self-respect, you can not expect other people to respect You, that`s ke key.

Answer 6

It could be they had insecurity issues from a young age. Which further shows how critical one's upbringing & in this case a parent is in a relationship.
Studies show that children with no interaction/ love/ affection at a young age tend to be more introverted with low self-esteem than those who come from warm, loving family environments.
When women allow themselves to be "abused," in some twisted way they not only condone the act but they actually believe that their abuser is acting out of love.
Because these women were deprived of affection early on... they seek validation from in this case... all the wrong places & people.

Answer 7

Men that abuse women, are not always abusive. They reassure their victim that they will never abuse again and charm them with talk and gifts, so they can keep them there to attack them once again. Woman are anxious to believe their assailant hoping that he may change and stay loving and charming as he acts in between his abuse and when they first met. Abusive people are usually controlling, and try to keep their victim away from their family and friends. They are either, psychopaths, evil, greedy, yes there are people who choose to be mean and use others to survive instead of caring for their own selves. It is not always a mental condition that makes people mean or abusive. When you decide to use others and be mean I deeply believe it invites evil into their lives and make them even meaner. Mental illness is a lack of or too much chemicals making one to feel overly elated or depressed, it does not mean you go around and kill. There is one mental illness only that can cause hallucinations and violence which is the exception of the rule. It is schizophrenia. There are more killings from greed, hatred, evil, jealousy and war then from people with mental conditions, so using that as an excise for ones abusive tendencies is bogus. Some abusive people also get high or get off from hurting others. It is a sick high like drinking, or taking drugs it gives them a high. These abusive powerful people seek kind easy going people to victimize and begin with minor abuse and put them down little by little between acting like they love them. They brain wash them making them believe that they will never find anyone better, and it is their fault why they loose control and attack them. It is very sad and it takes more than one try to get away from their monster assailant and maybe counseling for years. I was amazed to find out that 1 in a 100 people are psychopaths, and not all psychopaths kill like in the movie Psycho. They are controlling people who have to always have their way and will hurt to get it if need be!! How do I know all of this? I experienced a couple of real assholes in my life and prosecuted them due to their abuse. They picked the wrong one to mess with!!! lol!!!

Answer 8

Sometimes it's hard if you don't have anyone else to turn to I'm sure. But they could call 911..that's pretty simple. I wish I knew why women did that. No one deserves to be treated like they are nothing. We are all someone special in Gods eyes. Women need to learn how to have more respect for themselves & higher expectations from their men. It is truly a terrible thing. Especially when children are then added to the equation. God loves these women, he doesn't expect them to stay in a relationship like that & one day those men will have to answer to God for their actions to.

Answer 9

I feel it's because they have such a low self esteem they believe they can't do any better. They think they don't deserve a better man who would treat them right. They've been degraded for so long by someone they truly love and thought they were loved back that it becomes realistic and they start believing it, and the next thing you know, they seemed trapped in this type of hell.

Answer 10

You started out your question with the answer.They allow it to happen.I think if more women stayed in school longer,they would have more brains. I'm not trying to be cute are anything,it's just a crazy world.I think women could do a lot for this country if we had more education,before we started looking at men.Then we would have higher self esteem.