The story is long and weird...but it basically sums down to this: My husband's whole family tried to pay me to leave my husband, then tried to threaten me, then tried to convince my husband to leave me with my kids.
I do not drink, do drugs or anything illegal. I work, my husband is disabled. I am a patient woman. (One of the reasons it has taken 7 years to finally hurt me) My kids are well taken care of, and my husband too.
The reason they wanted him to leave me? I needed surgery and would be out of work for 6 weeks once the surgery took place. Money would be tight..which would make us uncomfortable financially for a few months.
Here it is a year after my surgery...we are still financiallly recovering. My in laws can't say they are sorry (they see no reason the should have to) and my heart still hurts at the thought my husband considered them over our family.
Am I wrong to still be angry?
2006-07-09 16:02:28 · 5 answers · asked by FairyGurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They baby all the kids in the family....none of them are grown up.
They are still doing it now:
For my six year olds birthday on Friday...they let him fill a shooping cart full of toys! And...at the birthday party...they tried to tell us they were trying to buy us a house!
Why can my husband and I do it ourselves? And,my present for him goes unnoticed now because of the humongous amount of toys he still has to open!
2006-07-09 16:09:59 · update #1
Angry at who? Husband or inlaws? If the inlaws then let it go, but now the husband should have sided with you as his wife. He figured since no money coming in on your part he would take their side now that your back to work he is fine with everything. Sounds as if he is for whoever will support him. Did they not think that is what your doing for their son since he is disabled and not bringing in much money. You will have to forgive but never forget.
2006-07-09 16:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 18⤊ 2⤋
Talk to your husband about how do you feel. If they are hurting you - Why do you still hanging around them? I understand that they are your husband family. That does not mean that they can come in and out of your house and life when ever they want. Talk to your husband and set some boundaries girl. Take control.
2006-07-09 23:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by derek P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think forgiveness is a possibility..but forgetting..hmm..thats a toughy.
What a heartless thing for them to do!
You have a right to be angry. Please dont try to smother your emotions! You will be surprised in the ways they will pop up on you! Talk about how you feel to your husband. Talk , talk an dtalk until you feel vented and heard. Otherwise the hurt can really put a wall up between you and your spouse without you seeing it happening!
Best wishes to you!
2006-07-10 00:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it matter what they think. You won, you got the guy and ultimatly he chose you over them. You need to look at it diffrently, you won!
2006-07-09 23:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by cerwenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right to be angry, but i cant understand WHY they dont like you...
2006-07-09 23:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋