I have sex with my wife of four years about once a week, is that normal what is the normal number of times?

Question

I have sex with my wife of four years about once a week, we don't have children, but we both work full time. I'm always up for it but she is not. is that normal? what is the normal number of times to have sex a week? dont give me a huge number. I just need to know the average that most couples do.

Answer 1

Everything you said is normal. We have kids so we are lucky to get sex 1-2 a month (we do a lot of grab/tickle butt around the house though). Since you don't have children, now is the time to work on this if you want some changes. After children, it's hard to regain frequency until children are 4-5 years old. Value and intimacy always leads to more frequency. If you can show your wife how much of a value she is to you, things will increase in the bedroom. If you create intimacy outside of the bedroom (like touching frequently, putting sitting chairs together, a little grab/tickle butt here and there), there will be an increase in the bedroom. You can set a pattern now that will keep your marriage and love life intact through all of the changes life will bring.

Good luck and try not to worry so much about what others are doing. The guy that said he works 60 hours a week and gets it 7 times a week could be my grandpa. I know my grandparents (married 52 years) had sex many times a week up until his death. But, I also know my grandparents weren't even friends much less intimate. Grandpa took sex as a right, and my grandma hated him for it.

Answer 2

I don't think you know women as well as you think you do. Men are visual and women are emotional. A man and woman can have a big argument. After they have made up. The man desires to have make up sex. Sex is the farthest thing from a woman's mind. She needs time to emotionally get over what happened. If your wife use to have sex with you all the time and suddenly she only wants it once a week. Then the problem isn't something wrong with her physically. The problem is your marriage. There is something bothering her about you. It might have started out that there was a problem at her job, something was stressing her out. Then there you are stressing her out even more by pushing her to have more sex. You need, you want, she has to give you. The more you push her, the more emotional she becomes. The more you push, the more you turn her off to wanting sex with you. How do you solve the problem? Stop pushing and complaining about sex. Be a loving husband, give her a little kiss, a hug, talk to her about anything but sex. When you take all the pressure off of her to have sex, then she will start wanting it again. This isn't going to happen over night, it might take months. A woman's sex drive has a lot to do with what's going on in her life. The more stress in her life, the lower her sex drive. A lot of stress and pressure in her life to have sex and she could completely lose all desire to have sex. Maybe if you put the emotional part of your marriage number one and take off all pressure to have sex, your sex life might improve.

Answer 3

We are at about twice a week and we both work full time and have kids. But that shouldn't matter what we do. I hope you aren't going to print these up and say "see other couples are doing it more!" There could be millions of reasons she isn't up for it. Does she have a high stress job? Is her job not high stress but she hates it so its high stress for her? Are you always up for it and you never miss an opportunity to make a pun or sexual innuendo? Cause that just annoying. Are you trying to have sex every Saturday at 10pm? Cause that's just obligatory. Maybe she just wants sex less than you do. (so you should go do the thing in the bathroom) I think you should leave her completely alone, COMPLETELY. May take a week, may take a month, may take two but, if you both love each other, she'll let you know when. Then, if you respond correctly, you'll have good sex. And if you do it right, she'll want it again. Good luck!

Answer 4

If your happy with once a week then it is normal. If your happy with five times a week that is normal also. I have never heard of a set number of times married people should have sex. It all depends on what the two of you want. I would say two to three is about normal.

Answer 5

thats a wide window. Men, in general, have a higher sex drive than women due to testosterone. What kind of work does your wife do? Does she have a demanding job? Physically? Emotionally? or just plain stressful? All of those things are going to play into her level of desire. Seems to me you need to take the focus off any number you perceive as being normal and maybe spend more time trying to entice her. Try being romantic...give her a back rub, or rub her feet after work, offer to do the dishes or cook dinner, its the little things men do that make a woman more interested in him sexually.

Answer 6

I was getting it 7 times a week from my wife and now i'm down to 3 to 5 and i even work 60 + hours a week. My wife works 3rd shift so that's why it went down because she's always tired.

Answer 7

2-3

Answer 8

i'm 35, my gf is 44 . Been together almost 4 years and we have sex 5 or 6 days a week, a few times each day. You do the math.

Answer 9

I don't know the exact number, but you most talk to her if you think that's not normal specially if you want to have sex, tell her that you love her and want to be with her. The only thing I'm sure about it, is that if she continue acting like that you're going to look for someone else.

Answer 10

Why are you asking? Do you think you should have sex more often? Ask you wife what she thinks is normal. You should be having this discussion with her because obviously you don't think you are getting enough. There is no normal number, every couple is different.