Well its been a month since my wife and i seperated. we have called eachother, she gets jealous if i talk about girls, friend dates with girls, and taking home girls from work to their house, cause they have no car. She looks on myspace all the time. we have met eachother twice since the seperation. She said friday when we met, that IF we get back together i may have to accept the fact that she has been seeing other guys. we laughed, had a good time, and she was nervous as hell while we were together. She was leaning towards me, playing with her bracelets like she was on crack, and smiled alot. Im not getting my hopes up cause thats an easy way to get hurt more. We both have been helping eachother out with finances and such. She said that her new favorite song is Unfaithful by Rihanna. Its a song about a girl who was not faithful to her boyfriend, and she decides she doesnt want to hurt him anymore by stopping seeing other people. Is that good, why would she tell me that, is thata test
2006-07-09 15:55:44 · 14 answers · asked by abyss5069 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is you wife and should not play games with you. Im sure she loves you, but love is not enough in any relationship. You need trust, respect, honor, and understanding as well. If you feel that you are not getting these things from her then you need to tell her. Yes! you do need to accept that she has seen other men, but she needs to accept your friends, male and female. And if you see someone else then she needs to accept that. She is NOT entiled to do what she pleases with your feelings. A couple is a partnership, two people who work together, not aganist.
2006-07-09 16:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by scorpieo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I think U are making it confusing. You need to stop mentioning girls. This IS your wife still. You can't get her back by making her jealous. You're just introducing more problems. You need to focus on how to reverse the seperation if you want your wife back. You need to focus on your relationship with the wife and see what she needs or needs to say to you and tell her your needs and all that. Separation is time for you both to reflect on the relationship. Not relive single-hood..
2006-07-09 16:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by fuhreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't really a marriage.You are separated. If you do get back together,you may have to accept the fact that you won't know everything that went on while you were apart.Can you live with this? Good luck.
2006-07-09 16:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been separated a month, and she's already seeing other guys? That should be a big clue-by-four over your head of how she values your marriage. I think you know what's going on...y'all need to get some marriage counseling to see if you can get back on track...or toss in the towel and let her go on with her "other guys"...
2006-07-09 16:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! Sounds like she's using you. And you should run like a bat of hell away from her. Stop talking to her altogether, if you don't have children. Ignore her and move on man. There's other fish in the sea.
2006-07-09 16:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by teresa l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't understand of anyplace contained in the Bible the position it says that having sexual sex previous to marriage is a sin worth of hellfire. i'm no longer positive why you imagine it truly is incorrect, yet in case you do actual imagine it truly is incorrect, then you definately ought to stick up for what you, in my view, believe is ideal. There are purely some issues in this international we actual can upward thrust up for, and what you quite believe is ideal is one in each and every of them. i do not say this because i imagine you shouldn't have sex; I say it because in case you get used to brushing off what you imagine is ideal because of a shortcut to exhilaration or astounding issues, you'll under no circumstances provide up compromising, and your existence will genuinely change into the finest route to getting in spite of you pick at that second, and that isn't any thanks to stay. you'll finally end up having no comprehend for your self.
2016-11-30 23:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are all confusing, and it sounds like she's saying that you cant be around other women, but its ok for her to date guys when she's bored with you. i dont know either of you, but thats what it sounds like to me. id say if you want to be with me than you'll stop seeing other guys. if you're afraid she will change her mind and keep seeing other guys, then you need to find someone else too even though its hard leaving someone after being married for so long.
2006-07-09 16:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be dating other people, much less telling each other about it. Geeeees man. You are still married. Unless you are positive that the marriage is over, how dare you bring other people into the relationship.
2006-07-09 16:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being married for a while, it is difficult to just cut ties. So, I am sure she is confused too, but your message doesn't mention that she was trying to get back with you.
So, what are you confused about?
2006-07-09 16:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your spouse was truly ready for the reality of marriage. You should prepare yourself for the worse. It seems to me that she still love you, but not enough to quell the excitement of pursuing a new love interest.
2006-07-09 16:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by M S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋