How can I stop worrying about everyting?

Question

everything*

Answer 1

Be still and become present. Become the witnessing presence behind the thoughts. Don't judge your thoughts, this is not necessary. By just becoming aware of the mental noise, will help you become more alert, and more in control of what it is you choose to think about. You develop a sense of control over your thoughts. Worrying about something that MAY never happen is like paying interest on money that you MAY never borrow. Make sense??

Remember: Nothing happens in the future and nothing happens in the past, everything happens Right Now! Don't ruin your "Right Now" worrying about things that may never happen. Also, sometimes letting go, gives the universe a chance to work it's magic, from a small seed of your faith. If you must put faith in a small rock, do so. Because a belief held tight, even a small pebble, will burst with glorious light because of the faith of the witnessing presence. You must harvest your belief in something. I am sending you beautiful butterflies. Each time you see one, will be a reminder that behind the clouds..the sun is always shining =)

Also Remember: This Too Shall Pass

Answer 2

One technique is to set aside 10 minutes a day. Wait until that time to worry. Spend the 10 minutes going over all the things that bug you, but when the 10 min. is up, stop.
Another technique is to write all the topics down. Then for each of them, write out 3 things you could do to make it better. Put the information away. Your mind will work on some of the proposed solutions. Later you will be surprised by how many you have improved upon.

Answer 3

Make a list of the things you worry about. Go through the list and refuse to worry about anything you can't possibly do anthing about. Cross them off the list. If anything remains, keep in mind that the point of worrying is to think of a solution, and in order to worry best you have to give it a good rest now and then - constant worry is counter-productive. So, make a rule for yourself that you will worry only about problems it is possible you might solve, and another rule that you will only worry about those problems every other day (if they are urgent) and every other week (if they are not urgent). This way you will ony be worrying about some things, and only every now and then.

Answer 4

It starts with you not wanting to worry.

You must be attracted to worry, perhaps you feel a sense of accomplishment when you figure something out.

I don't "worry" about everything because I realize i can't fix everything, so why worry? Nobody is telling me to fix everything. Nobody expects me to fix everything. So, why should I?

Do what you can and be happy for whatever you do right. It is not wrong to be happy.

The way you stop worrying is you stop worrying, and start doing something else.

It is all in your perspective.

Answer 5

It's not easy. I worry about everything too. And a lot of it I have no control over. What other people do, when those I love will die. That sort off thing. Try meditation. It may help. Or talk to a counselor. That helps a lot of people I know.

Answer 6

think of all the worrying u've done in the past and how useless it is, it only drains your energy and potential. The only way relieve this is to observe your thoughts and not allow yourself to be controlled by them. Just allow the chatter in your head and choose to think or do something else. Think of it from the standpoint of personal gain, what has worrying ever done for you??

Answer 7

Worry about things that you have the ability to control. Everything else is out of your control so why worry about it. Take care of your immediate surroundings and gradually work your way out to things that you can control once your own house is under control.

Answer 8

Worry is emotional.

All emotion is chemically driven.

There are three things that determine your emotional experience:
belief states
reactions (too technical to go into here)
chemical changes in the body
(to be fair, In addition to these general categorizations, there is a certain amount of natural inclination and learned response in everyone that makes some people worry more than others. Even if you worry more than others around you it may be normal for you, and so may be "nothing to worry about.")

Chemical changes can be caused by:
a sickness
medication
normal aging
stress
substances in the environment.

Of substances in the environment there are two kinds.
substances purposely acquired by you
substances accidentally acquired by you.

To take these one at a time:
things that determine your emotional experience:
belief states--either what you believe is accurate or not. If accurate, find out how to use the information at hand to act against what is worrying you. When you begin to act against the cause of worry your emotional state should change and you should feel more in charge and less worried.

If not accurate, once you are assured of what is accurate your worry should recede.

reactions (too technical to go into here)--but, if your worry is reactive and you can tell, then apply the same information above. Your worry should recede.

If that doesn't help, then try a clergy person or a counselor for talk therapy.

Chemical changes caused by:
a sickness--as you get better in the normal course of treatment your worry should get better too.

medication--some meds can produce worry as a side effect. If your worrying started after starting on a form of meds, then talk to the prescribing MD, who will either adjust, switch, or add to your meds to get you back to balance.

normal aging--People worry more as they age. Part of this is just the normal slowdown of a body's ability to respond chemically to the demands of the environment. If it becomes too much of a problem, see your MD.

stress--same as above. Stress reduces your body's ability to respond well to the demands of the environment. Change the environment, reduce your stressors, or see your MD. A temporary use of some med may be enough to jump start you out of things.

Of substances in the environment:
substances purposely acquired by you--recreational drugs, including alcohol and tobacco, require a lot of chemical processing. That reduces your body's ability to chemically respond to other stressors. Try cutting down. Especially with alcohol feelings of worry, depression, sorrow, hopelessness, and such are a normal part of drinking, usually following a day or two after drinking and may be more or less severe depending on your own norms of chemical response and the amount consumed.

Other recreational drugs also can have strong and negative emotional effects and may even eliminate your body's ability to produce emotions normally. That residual effect can last for years after ceasing drug use. An AODA counselor could help you recognize symptoms and determine what may be normal to experience after the use of various drugs.

substances accidentally acquired by you--other chemicals come into our lives constantly and we don't even notice it: pollen, mold, exhaust, other forms of pollution, chemicals in the workplace, use of lawn fertilizer, cleaning fluids,.... you could make a long list. If you work in a place that uses a lot of strong chemicals your company should be able to provide you with a list of the chemicals, their potential harms, and possible side effects of being around them.

If none of that seems to be accurate for you, then there are three other possibilities to consider. Depression, a general phobia, or obsessive compulsive disorder. All of these are now treatable and you can get meds that, when properly prescribed and monitored, will leave you feeling "normal" and not "medicated." In fact, one of the problems with a lot of the new meds is that people feel so "normal" they think the meds aren't doing anything because they can't "feel" them working. Then they stop taking the meds and the symptoms return.

A good rule of thumb is: never go on meds or off meds without medical supervision.

One last thing to consider.

Worry is not only an emotional experience that can at times be unpleasant, it is also a capacity that can be used by you as an asset. People who worry more can sometimes find great success and enjoyment in a problem solving role. If your worry leads to satisfying experiences (at least some of the time), then it may be worth exploring how to make it an even more valuable strength. If the worry is a torment, then you may want to explore an avenue of help to reduce it.

Answer 9

Antonio Gramsci once said something to the effect: " i don't have hope, i only have action." do everything possible to support the outcomes that you desire. don't wait for the quarter to land on heads or tails, grab that darn thing and put it on what you want. also read his holiness the Dalia llama. it doesn't cure the worrying, but it helps.

Answer 10

marriage is a good remedy from chronic worries...you'll start to worry about something in particular(pour husband), that leaving you a space not to worry about everything outside of marriage. When you'll be full of a marriage crap, you suddenly will discover that whole world existing beside your tiny worries ... vast world without worries...then welcome. But for now... do not take anything personal....Your worries comes from fear, and you identify yourself with it.