Do u have problem in letting things go and always get gloomy over things which has already happened?

Question

I'm a typical this kind of "pathetic" person. I always find i t hard to forget those regrets and always think about it. It ends like still can not change anything.
Ermm, is it common problem within females? Is it because we are too emotional? It seems like males find it easier to deal with it and forget it also

Answer 1

That's the way the human mind works--it is important to our survival. We learn from our mistakes and so they stick in our minds more easily than the good experiences. To relieve the gloominess, try thinking about how bad things COULD have gone! Try thinking about what you've learned. I think males are more emotional than females--that's why they try to ignore their sadness and grief. They are very vulnerable. Getting angry makes them (and we women, too) feel more powerful. Life is like football. If you're going to play, you expect to get hurt.

Answer 2

I am a male and this happens to me, but in a different way. I can't let go of what other people have done in their past that I don't agree with it, or just can't stand. Example: A GF who cheated on a past BF, or if they have lied about something before. This kind of stuff will stick in my mind like crazy. I will need to ask tons of questions to get the answer of why that person did what they did. I don't care if it is a reason I agree with, but give something truthful so I will be able to better understand why the person I am close with acted in that way at a specific time.

In a way it can be said to be an insecurity. But when those things bug me it is not just because want to see if that person has a good chance of doing that to me, it is also b/c I want to understand what that persons mind works or worked.

And about the "Insecurity" word, which is used a lot in relationships, why is it such a bad thing. How can anyone be secure in a world that is not? If any flags go off about som eones past...you need to be informed on why that persons mind is different now, or how it is still the same. SO....don't get gloomy about things that have already happened!! Figure out why it happened and know what not to do or to do next time.

Answer 3

Didn't get to the end because it was a lil long but think about this... What does cutting urself do for you? By thinking about the pain ur giving urself by cutting urself u aren't getting rid of whatever pain u feel inside. And ur a cute girl. Don't let the dick highschoolers out there tell u otherwise. (I normally have high standards too) Also, as u know, cutting urself gives u scares. Having scares on ur wrists and thighs is not going 2 help u to feel better about urself if u are ever going to a pool. So just tell ur parents and they will help u get better. They will not think of u a complete failure since ur not.

Answer 4

It is some of us are emotional people. Some guys will have the same problem as the lasies.

Sometimes it is not easy to forget those regrets especially it come to relationship, but what had happened in the past we can't change. We have treasure what we have now as we dun know what lies ahead of us in our future.

Answer 5

It's not just women let me assure you. Do something about it. Throw caution to the wind...heck throw it right out the friggin window! I worry all the time about things that I have NO control over. I'm a complete psycho.

Answer 6

yes i dwell on my past even though i am doing great istill get aggervated that ididnt do more with my life sooner i have a hard time forgiving people.Hell im still mad at people i knew years ago

Answer 7

Can't change the past, so why worry about it. Move on to better things in life!!

Answer 8

yeah, this is totally me. i always dwell on things i cannot go back and change, or constantly remember good times past without paying attentioin to the good times going on.

Answer 9

I can be that way too. I think men can be too, but are not willing to talk about it.

Answer 10

sometimes