2006-07-09 15:15:50 · 20 answers · asked by helplesslynluv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave the feelings of first love in the past :) You will always love your first love in a different way. Enjoy your marriage and take each day as it comes your way. Be greatful you have a great husband and look forward to waking up to him each day. Leave the past in the past and move on sweetie :)
2006-07-09 15:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you haven't seen your first love in years, you probably are not in love with him, but, in love with the idea. Your marriage may not be all that you hoped for and this is just an outlet to fantasize of something more romantic.
In all reality, your first love is probably not what you have romanticized him to be in your mind. Fantasies are fun, but, they are fantasies. As long as you keep in mind they aren't real, but, they are fun and a harmless escape from some of the harshness of reality, then fine. Everybody needs an escape once and a while. He may just be a coping mechanism for some lack of fulfillment in your life. There is always a special place in our hearts for a first love and that's ok.
Consider doing a little reading and investing in a good book on emotional health/growth and self fulfillment (better yet , get some books at the library)
Good luck
2006-07-09 22:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer is...... You dont. You never forget your first true love. You just have to move on. You are in love with the way things were all those years ago, the person he was then. People change, I`d hazard a guess that if you met him today he`d be totally different to how he was then. You`ll always have the memories though, Sorry Hun, I know it hurts. Be strong and live for now. Cherish the memories.
2006-07-09 22:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by sacredspliff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have gotten married until you'd taken care of that...if you haven't seen that person in years, why are you still carrying a torch? It's unlikely that they are. Enjoy the fond memories, and hold him (I assume) in your heart, but close the door on that chapter of your life NOW. How would your spouse feel to learn this? How would you feel if you knew the person you were with, pined over a lost love of years ago. Wouldn't make you feel very special would it?
The past is the past...leave it there and move on with your life, before your feelings for that "ghost" sabatoge what you've got going now.
2006-07-09 22:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so SELFISH and you USED that Man in the WORST way possible.
Did you tell your husband before you married him that you were still in LOVE with your first boyfriend.
Do you think that might have been an IMPORTANT point to make.
Tell him now so he can get out. I feel so sorry for him.
MEN and WOMEN this is why you need to absolutely drill the party you are about to marry. Seems they keep these LITTLE BITTY SECRETS that are not suppose to be important.
This woman took a vow FORSAKE all others lying through her teeth. He deserves an at fault divorce
Drill them, drill them drill them.
2006-07-09 22:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married and unhappy after 18 years I left,after I had been by myself a few years my first love tracked me down he and I often thought about each other but the years have turned us both into diffrent people It only took 2 encounters with each other to realise we where like chalk and cheese and I havent seen him since
2006-07-10 00:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by bren40au 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're investing your thoughts in the wrong person. Why did you get married? If (and I assume you are) you are in love with your husband why are you trying to compare him with your first love. Guess who's putting his life into yours. It ain't the old love, that's for sure. You are just fantasizing that you are missing something. You aren't. How do you get over him? Invest your time and your effort totally into your marriage. Revisit every good event you have had in your lives. Create new memories that cannot be duplicated. Do it now. Otherwise you will eventually fantasize your marriage into oblivion (commonly called divorce)
2006-07-09 22:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely hard to get over your first love. You will always remember and long for your first. Yes, I am sure you love your husband, but there will always be a special place in your heart for your first. I really don't know how you can get over him. If I had the answer, I would be a millionaire.
2006-07-09 22:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about all the bad times you had with him or think of why yall broke up in the first place. Or if you still love him so much you cant ive without him leave who you got now and find him and ask can we get back together and tell him how you feel.
2006-07-09 22:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jeana L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should pray that god will heal your heart. You should tell your husband you have feelings of some sorts for your first love. First love's are hard to get over but you can do it with god's help. Be honest with yourself and your husband. Time heals all wounds.
2006-07-09 22:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋