2006-07-09 15:08:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What if you had a one night stand 6 years ago and have never spoken to and rarely think about him, should you fess up and tell your husband even though you guys have been through counseling and have now been married for almost 9 years.! We now have 3 kids. I feel in my heart that it would never happen again, is it worth it to chance everything by telling him.
2006-07-09 15:19:19 · update #1
In my opinoin NO. its hurtful & vindictive. Do twice the favor & end the relationship first. There is somehting wrong w/ it if you want to cheat.
2006-07-09 15:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by madraven4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ! I propose if there's a pair and one in each and every of them see's someone that he or she may have like this large connection with then go away the spouse or husband first... now and again human beings do not actual understand what they pick in existence from somebody else... so that they imagine happiness or another ingredient that makes them experience excited to be with that individual... is an effective reason to be married.... yet in all reality there ought to always be somebody else obtainable that makes you .. you.... So in case your eyes are nevertheless open to hunt for some thing or somebody else then why no longer end it with out hurting they different individual even better.... Why stay and do it.... I tell my husband each and each and every of the time in case you experience that there is a few thing lacking and also you meet someone that you've your eyes on go away me... i receives over a breakup yet i will not forgive a unfaithful guy...
2016-11-30 23:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are asking two questions:
1. Is it ever right or justified to cheat
2. Should you tell your spouse that you have a long time ago.
To answer question 1: No it is NEVER right or justified. It's playing with fire and can cause a lot of heartache and loss of trust.
But to answer question 2: This is a question you have to grapple with. I would think you'd need to do a lot of soul searching to disclose this information, and your spouse may need some help in grappling with this information. If you choose to disclose, you may get a relieved conscience, but you may torture your mate and lose his trust/respect. You may need some counseling to deal with this information as a couple. So...there's my two cents.
2006-07-09 15:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by keyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. One should never cheat even if you know your partner cheated on you. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. To even attempt to cheat on someone simply because you are trying to pay back is an accumulation of bad karma.
Think about it. The person you are cheating with may take you seriously, thinking that there may be a pontential commited relationship, while you have a hidden agenda, to pay back at your partner for cheating on you. Two wrong does not make a right!
2006-07-09 15:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by ProArtWork 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel like some people deserve to be cheated on especially if they haave cheated on you but the old saying cheaters never win applies because getting even never solves the problem. No one wants to be used or lied to including someone that may have done it to you. So the only justification you will get to tell you it's o.k. to cheat is that little voice in your head that tries to make you forget you have a conscience or one of your bitter girlfriends that thinks all guys deserve whatever they get. And who wants to get justification from that.
2006-07-09 15:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER It hurts all those involved (spouse cheated on, the one who cheated, and the other woman/man, as well as the families/kids. Why would anyone want to put everyone around them in that much pain? I sure wouldn't!
2006-07-09 15:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the morals of each person. Some people believe that it is wrong to cheat no matter what the circumstances may be. Personally, the only time I would even consider cheating is if my boyfriend where cheating on me.
2006-07-09 15:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, mate is for life. But then again now a days spouse is the new version of dating
2006-07-09 15:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is too much going on out there. Is it worth hurting the one you love... The answer is no work it out, try new things. Because once you step out you always have that between you and it will never be the same and someone always gets hurt.
2006-07-09 15:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by lisa t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would make it justified? Trying to get even with your spouse because they did it to you? No, because then you're just stooping to their level. My opinion is that if you feel the need to cheat, don't date at all. You can't find yourself commiting then what's the point? If you want to be permiscuous, then no one's stopping you. But don't drag someone else down into that hole with you, especially someone who loves you.
2006-07-09 15:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋