when on alcohol/drugs what is a persons bottom line actually like? Why do they attack the only perosn that stands there helping them-
2006-07-09 15:04:47 · 11 answers · asked by Maggie O 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Each person has their own"bottom level". They attack the one trying to help them because it is obvious the person trying to help knows the depth of their problem. No one wants to admit they have a problem and they know the helper "knows".
2006-07-10 16:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An alcoholic has to hit rock bottom, before they seek help. Otherwise that have to get in trouhble with the law.They also will hurt and continue to hurt everyone around them. And why not they are hurting themselves each day more and more, so why be nice to others if you cant be nice to yourself.The alcoholic way of life is actually not living at all. I know i am in recovery. It is a commitment that that person has got to want to do for themselves. Only at that time will they truly appreciate the support and help. Good luck to you.
2006-07-21 14:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by bustalynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is provide the information to that person to make the decisions for themselves. As much as you care for this person (and they may honestly care for you too) you can not make this happen for them. Usually they will not be ready for change until they have hit the absolute bottom...no job, no money, no friends, etc. The bottom is different for everyone, some may just accept it and move on others may struggle with their situations.
You have to be able to present the information and resources at the right time to them otherwise you will feel like it is a waste of time. Unfortunately it takes multiple attempts at sobriety before they succeed so you shouldn't expect it on the first try.
2006-07-09 15:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by dannyl410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they lose their mate or spouse, When they lose their job, When they lose their home, And when they attack the last person on earth that stills believes they can help them. They still are not at the bottom. They have to wake up out on the street with no money and no one to help them.
I know this from personal experience. My 3rd. husb. was an alchohalic. I was stupid. I believed him 3 times when he told me he would change. The last time He thru fresh brewed coffee overe my head. That was 5 years ago I have not seen him since.
2006-07-09 15:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people drink every day, and some only on the weekends. its different for everyone, but if you think you have a problem, its time to get help. the first thing is you have to be ready, and want to stop or it will never work. AA worked great for me, i haven't had a drink in 12 years. also some companies have counseling for their employees who need help with a problem. the reason a person gets upset when you try to help them with this is because they don't want to admit they have a problem, and down inside them selves they really know they do. good luck, and don't give up on them.
2006-07-09 15:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by darren b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty damned low. You can try to help them all you want but unless they decide its time for them to stop, that their lives have become unmanageable and their lives are out of control, they will never stop. Its not easy to take that first step. Its sad that a lot of people never get the courage up to change their lives.
Good luck~!
2006-07-21 18:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by eddie9551 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband best friend of 20 years is a severe alcoholic he has had several duis he shakes real bad if he doesn't drink. we begg him to get help. he will cuss us out. and everything. sometimes I wonder why we still talk to him. we are the only freinds he has left. so I am afraid if we turn our back on him he might really do something stupid. so the best thing to do is just be strong and be there .one day they will be ready to get help.
2006-07-09 15:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by recmcmdc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, sometimes people realise at an early stage when they get sick or hurt someone? others not... how long have you been trying to help them?
2006-07-09 15:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister died at 49 from alcoholism- tell them that. People can die from the abuse!
2006-07-21 02:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by jaswinelover1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scared, blind, tell the person getting hurt to get out now
2006-07-09 15:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by Alone in a crowd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋