Ok i need help there's this guy I REALLY like and I want to ask him out but i can't overcome my fears bcuz what if he says no? i'll be completely heartbroken and embarassed :'(
so please give me your BEST advice!
thanks!!!!
2006-07-09 14:39:51 · 10 answers · asked by soccerrrr ♥ 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Just go ahead and ask - you'll never know until you do it!!!!
2006-07-09 14:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by Troy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is 93 the year you were born? I am guessing that might be a yes.
I know this is hard to believe----but if you ask him and he says no, you will NOT be heartbroken for very long---and embarassed is temporary too.
When we are young, we think that this is all there is. Pick up that little book, 'Don't sweat the small stuff'. It really is excellent and might give you some perspective. I wish someone would have pointed all this out to me when I was younger.
Life is short---you should be ENJOYING these days of fun rather than worrying about what some guy is going to think! If he likes you, great! If he doesn't----there are plenty of others! d
good luck. Just call him and realize that 5 years from now you will be laughing at yourself!
2006-07-09 21:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm k best advice... either ask him before someone else does , if he says no, it is just a learning experience for you .or you can play it safe and try to be a friend first and watch him start going out with someone else.... your call.. Advice.... Just ask him if he would like to get a bite after class or work or where ever you know him from... If no time for a bit the say a walk to the next class and a soda along the way ... something like that... First make sure he doesn't already have someone important in his life that could make it unconfrontable for him to even answer that question cause if he has someone then even if he wants to he might say no cause he feels obligated to say no or if he has someone and still says yes then you don't even want to go there... the last thing you need also is for a jealous ex-partner to coming at you because he went with you somewhere while they were still together... good luck
2006-07-09 21:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to check your attitude about how you feel about you. If you ask him out he'll probably jump at the chance. If he does say no you don't ask why? That gives him the opportunity to personalize it and say because I just don't like you. Instead you look him dead in the eye and say it's the best date you've ever missed out on. Then start looking for the next guy and no matter how hard he comes back and try's you then are in control and you can tell him no, until you're ready. Not everybody will say yes, but not everybody will say no either. Nobody likes rejection but not everyone will reject you. Assert yourself and it will pay off.
2006-07-09 21:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kewl__Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boo, hoo. You chicks have no idea what it's like to be a guy. You have it so easy. We have to ask a trillion chicks out and get rejected, crushed, humiliated, and embarassed a trillion times before one finally says yes, all you have to do is sit there and look pretty waiting for the man to come to you. And you women wonder why us men are so hardened emotionally, because of YOU! And THIS is what they mean by "grow a pair". Just ask the dude out you coward.
2006-07-09 21:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and what makes you better than guys? gurls say no to guys every day of the week, some even make a game out of saying no . some give fake numbers to get their point of no across and you are worried about your fragile ego. have you ever told a guy no? I will bet you have, and I will bet you didn't really care how he felt after wards. especially enuf to compel you to the point of saying yes. you aren't fighting for equality in this world, you are fighting for privileges. do unto others and all.
2006-07-09 21:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im a guy so ill tell what might happen. if he does say no you will have planted a seed in his head and he will dwell on it for days untill he will eventually say yes. if he dont already have a girlfriend. and if he says yes well there is no problem is there?
2006-07-09 21:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by mikedhurley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be upset if he says no, but you'll never forgive yourself if you don't ask!. Plus, boys are so clueless, he probably doesn't even know you like him. Just ask!! It'll be ok!
2006-07-09 21:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by corbeyelise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if you'd rather be embarassed or spend the rest of your life wondering what if (I had asked him)?
2006-07-09 21:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by MEB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and knowbody else because if your not yourself the guy will see right thru you and dump you and you dont want that!lol
2006-07-09 22:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by beautiful dancer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋