If you were pregnant, had a baby, or an abortion, how do you feel about it now? Do you regret having a baby? Do you regret having an abortion? I'm newly pregnant and just wondering what others have done though. thanx.
2006-07-09 14:26:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have no regrets whatsoever.
FYI--For those who say it's much better to have it and adopt it out, know that I did that as well, becoming pregnant before abortion was legal. This damaged me more psychologically than any abortion.
2006-07-09 14:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an abortion back in 98 and I regret that in a way and in some ways I don't. I remeber the date and the whole experince like it was yesterday. I have two kids now but at that time in 1998 I couldn't handle myself much less a child but when I got pregnant with my first child I have now. I was no better off then, then I was in 1998 sometimes I wonder if I would have had that baby if it would have changed me like my first child did. If I would have had that baby he/she would be 9 this year so yes I think about the abortion often although not as much as I once did. I don't think abortion is wrong. I think it is up to the women but in my case it is kind of like if I only knew then what I know now kind of thing ya know.
I love my kids now and am very very glad that I have them everyday is a blessing with them
2006-07-09 14:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by unhappyinin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no regrets. It was what I needed to do at the time to survive. I would not have made a good mother at the time.
Your circumstance may be different. If you don't want to go through the pregnancy have an abortion as early as possible.
If you can go through the pregnancy have the child and give it up for adoption. If you cannot care for your child here are many organizations that will help you find people who might adopt your child. In Texas and other states there is a law called the "Baby Moses Law" after you have the child take it to a fire station no questions will be asked, but you do lose your maternal rights.
If you believe you can be a good mother and can love a child keep it and raise it. If you know who the father is make sure you put his name on the birth certificate so he can help pay for the child's upbringing. If he claims it is not his child get a DNA test to prove paternity. Next time you have sex try using birth control you can get for free at Planned Parenthood. I know you will make the right choice for you.
2006-07-09 14:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my lovely daughter when I had just turned 17. She has been such an inspiration to me, as well as the rest of my family. Abortion never entered my mind, since I was raised in a Christian home. I am so glad that I chose to let her live. Others I knew at that time aborted and they regret if to this day. Some are haunted by dreams etc. I am very glad I had my daughter. She is 27 now and a very successful mother of 2.
2006-07-12 00:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I havent gotton pregnant or anything like that ever before... i am absolutely against abortions... and ive heard testimonial s about how lonely and terrible it feels ... some ppl believe that until a certain point that the baby is just a blob... but its not.. it is a living human... that could grow up to be a doctor or a very influential person in the world even if the baby was unexpected... that doesnt mean that they shouldnt have a chance at life... imagine if u were the baby and knew that ur parents didnt want u because they didnt expect u...well... that is my personall opinion..
God Bless
2006-07-09 14:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by jenna 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i had one...a while back-4 years maybe....being one of those ppl wid irregular periods,and not showing at all, i ended up aborting a pretty well formed little girl....at that stage of pregnancy, the only way to go about it was induced labour...i know what it feels like and i guess i deserved the pain... i was 21 then,and the guilt has not left me....i guess it never will....common sense tells me it was the only way out, but the fact that she wanted to live and i didnt let her plagues me still....my religion will never forgive me,and neither will my conscience.maybe i should have got help to get me over the nightmares...i didnt and i regret that too....she was alive.she was beautiful....and she deserved to live.
condoms are not 100% effective and i hate to have been the one to discover that first hand.....
.....i sometimes wonder if i will ever be able to have kids.....
.....i wonder if i should tell the man i end up with.....
.....my mother doesnt know...and im not going to tell her.
my older sister was pregnant at the time...and her son is a few months younger than my baby would have been......i look at him now and know that i could never be a mother then......but i love him to bits in an effort to make it up to that life i took away.
this is the first time i have spoken out about this....only because i want you to not make the mistakes i did.
if you are not mentally/emotionally/financially ready to assume responsibility for a life,do not bring it into this ****** up world to live as a living example of your carelessness......
....and if you are ready, then love your baby and give it all the happiness you can and then some.....
good luck and god bless....
with best wishes from india.
2006-07-09 15:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by the workaholic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 and dreamed of an abortion. I had another friend at the same time that had an abortion and if I understand right went on to have 2 more. She is a mess.
I wanted one so bad but I didn't.
I'm so glad I didn't. He is the light of my life. He is successful and has a bachelors degree and is expecting with his beautiful wife my first grandson. I am so glad that I didn't wisk him out of my life. I would have never known what I was missing. No it wasn't easy raising him but oh I am so glad that I did.
2006-07-09 14:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend that had to take the abortion pill. Long story short, she and her boyfriend had a little 'oopsie'. She was very glad to do it, especially b/c it was just a pill and not some big procedure.
I have a friend that got pregnant, and her life was down the tube.....She developed a sort of 'white picket fence' syndrome and thought if she got married and had the kid, everything would be ok. She and her husband broke up a year later, and the kid has a terribly unprepared mother now.
2006-07-09 14:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have & regret it deeply.
Sometimes I wonder what it would've been like.
at the time my husband and I weren't married, but now that I see how things are with our other children (their features/personalities, etc), I sometimes wonder what he/she would've been like.
Things haven't always been easy trying to raise our family, but anything worthwhile is worth working for.
If you are contemplating you're options there are lots,including open adoption. Many people choose parents for their children ,either through an agency,family or acquaintences & continue to see/have a relationship with the child without the worry or stress of having to be a full time, struggling/single parent.
Check these sites for more info:
http://solutionsphc.com/html/beforeyoudecide.htm
http://www.openadoption.com/
http://www.nrlc.org/abortion/help.html
Congratulations & Best Wishes
2006-07-09 15:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by 1derous1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I regret it but I wouldn't be able to regret the teenager we now only occasionally regret having because it would have been a different (older) child, because we weren't having more than 1 regardless. So all in all no regret, certainly not from our teen, (usually).
If you had all your eggs as children you'd have half a million and so would every other woman. We can pick and choose so we have to.
2006-07-09 14:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋