I am married to him now, but he is still talking to her on a regular basis and keeping it a secret.
2006-07-09 14:25:27 · 29 answers · asked by Primavera 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I'm a single man but still think you have every right to be mad...Sounds like he has never let go of her...
Tell him you don't feel very comfortable when he is with her...
Good luck hope it gets better...Smile be happy!!!!
2006-07-09 14:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several reasons why your husband could be doing this. If he was close to her kids while they were married he may see nothing wrong with seeing them from time to time but that is not something he should keep from you. Some men do not tell their wives things all the time because they are actually hiding something but instead because they fear their wives may not be able to handle the truth or that it will make them feel insecure, especially if their wife tends to be an insecure person. However if he is spending tine with them frequently more than you are comfortable with or more than with you, you need to address the issue and things like that should not be kept from you whether he feels he has a good reason or not. Yes you have the right to be upset.
2006-07-09 21:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is afraid that you will not approve of him talking to her and so he thinks he needs to hide it. This is not a good excuse on his part, but it does make sense if you think about it. If he has children with her, it is very important to keep in touch for the sake of them and it's unfair to ask him not to. However, if he doesn't have kids with her and she is just an ex wife then I don't think he needs to be going anywhere with her. Make sure he knows what you expect from him and if you feel insecure it is at least PARTLY his job to assure you that you have no reason to be mad.
2006-07-09 21:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by L. M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not get mad. He may still have a connection to the kids even though they are not his. I would only question the situation if the ex-wife or husband have been acting squirrelly. Then I would turn it over to Lord to work things out.
2006-07-09 21:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by MICHELE D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would tick me off soooooooo bad. It sounds like he is cheating on you by doing this behind your back and keeping it a secret to boot. I think I would be checking that out and asking questions. How did you find this out?Make sure the source is right. And if he is have hankie pankie with her, then he could keep on playing hankie pankie with her but not while he was living with me. Even if you ask him about it, he probably will not tell you the truth.
2006-07-09 21:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, there's still something between them. Don't waste anymore of your time.. get a divorce & pronto. If you stay in the relationship you'll end up looking & feeling like a complete fool. Marriage is about TRUST & commitment. It's not about taking your ex-wife shopping. Be strong!
2006-07-09 21:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I most certainly would be upset with it! If he is taking time away from being with you and your kids; it's an issue! Keeping it a secret on top of it? For sure! He shouldn't be keeping it a secret from you - that's not right at all.
2006-07-09 21:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by wondering in michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he's not hiding anything then its okay but he is, so get mad, and lay down ur laws or leave, he's doing more than shopping with her, dont let him tell u different, u dont deserve that so dont keep urself in that situation, if he's lieing to u he doesnt have respect for u him or his ex wife or anyone else he might be with on the side,
2006-07-09 21:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by cherrybc032000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also would be very pissed!! You may need to find out if one or all of those children may be his. Keeping a secret may include that. You need to have him take you out shopping spend all the money so there's nothing for the ex.
2006-07-09 21:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i would be mad with him because he doesn't have to talk to her anymore if he's not the father of those kids. If I was you I would ask him if he's still in love with her, and to tell you the truth
2006-07-09 21:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by msknowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋