Should I break up with someone I love? How do I know if it's the right thing to do?

Question

My boyfriend "Jason", is a bisexual male. For three years we've been together, and were briefly engaged.
Jason has always maintained a "hidden" interest in men. He tries to hide his interest in checking out guys or looking up male porn. He is more attracted to men than women, and will admit this freely. I knew this when we got together, and thought it would be okay. He loves me very much, and our physical life doesn't hurt for this. He finds me desirable, and wants to be in a long-term relationship with me. But I am extremely insecure. Jason's more feminine by nature, and I am constantly being teased and "counseled" that he is too gay. I don't know if I can do this for the rest of my life. Even though he really wants our relationship to be monogamous and work out, I don't know if I can find happiness here. His true nature seems to lie in a life I can't give him. He is the first and only man I've loved, and I'm so scared that if I leave him I'll miss him forever.

Answer 1

Only you can decide this, but good for you for looking to the long term. If there is any doubt at all in your mind, think it through carefully. I would strongly recommend seeing a counselor to have someone to give experienced and knowlegeable, but objective input. I think it would take a lot to deal with that kind of relationship, and only you know if it is in line with the dreams and goals you have for your life.

Since he is the first and only man you have loved, I would suggest that maybe you take a year or two off of the relationship to date and explore.

I wish you well.

Answer 2

OUCH, for you. You need counceling. I do not know what kind of person you are, but maybe you are homosexual and he is your woman. Run fast and far from that situation.

Answer 3

Run!

Answer 4

just dump him